Hello. I'm a young gentleman that's been married for almost 2 years now. I'm married to one of my high schools friends I met up after high school. I'm 22 and she's 21. We have no children. We met up and everything was great, she had a job, chores, and seems fit to be married. (she lived with her mom) and even though it was soon I got married to her after 6 months of dating. Which was after my job training. We've been married for almost two years. She still doesn't have a job. And I want her to get one but she's content being a house wife. She barely cleans, and most of the time I have to tell her. Which I don't like bossing her around. Shes lazy and is happy laying on the couch watching Netflix, chilling around the house and sleeps until noon. I've had a heart to heart talk to her about what she is doing is making me unhappy. And all I ask of her is to clean a little more and maybe get a part time job. She started doing better and then she just goes back to doing her same routine. It's been like this for a while now and I'm a patient guy. But I don't know if it's going to get better. I work a lot of hours (almost 40 hrs) in the field on a three day tour. I go on tour and she doesnt really clean, when i get back she doesnt clean at all because she missed me from being on tour. Sometimes she cleans, most of the time she doesn't. I don't think it's depression. She's even told me all she wants to do is be a house wife and is content of staying home all day. And I feel like I'm doing something wrong here. Cleaning is not hard for two people. I usually don't leave a mess and usually place dirty dishes in the sink. Sometimes I even start doing dishes and she asks me what I'm doing and I tell her I'm doing the dishes. And she says thats her job. Even though they've been sitting there for 3 or 4 days now. I don't want to leave her. I love her. But I feel hurt. I got married and made a commitment. But I didn't know it was going to be like this. We get along great most of the time and fight sometimes but who doesn't? I feel I moved into marriage too soon without letting her move in with me first. Without her mom telling her to do chores I guess she feels like she's set to do nothing because I make decent pay. Which my pay isn't a lot, especially when I have to pay for all the bills. Even her mom and grandma tries to encourage her to get a job but she refuses because she hates working. Nobody really does unless you love your job. I just don't know what to do. I've been patient and understanding. I even took her to a class on ba
se to learn how to write resumes. She says she placed like 6 job applications but I don't see not one of them will hire her. I've been unhappy about six months now but I try so hard to make it better. I just need some advice. No blasting. I just want some help, maybe some options of course(s) of action I should take. Thank you for taking the time to read this.