And I Know That Nearly Everyone Agrees With Me!

So I was thinking there ought to be a group for it!! I am sure if enough people signed a petition, we might be able to get some laws passed even! How many people do you think would support this cause? A LOT!

Many people bring this up especially when hearing about the abuse or neglect of some parents. I think it would be in the best interest of everyone if there were laws or some kind of legislation or some kind or pre-requisites or test which must be passed, in order for one to become a parent. BUT, would it need to be re-taken? How could we prevent someone from passing the test falsely? Just like some people are fine before they get married but become abusive afterwards, some parents would be fine before and become abusive later--or perhaps simply be good at hiding it. And if the test was observational, wouldn't they be on their best behavior knowing they were being observed? Perhaps the best thing would be randomized yearly testing? How would such a thing be set up and what sorts of tests or laws or requirements would you want to have put in place, and how would we go about enforcing this or making sure that it was accurate?

What are everyones' thoughts on this?

SummerWind18 SummerWind18
26-30, F
6 Responses Mar 7, 2010

littleflyer, I agree with you. And counseling is a great starting point. there need to be more laws protecting children and more options of places for them to go away from their family in such cases. Children should be able to begin an investigation on their parents without fear of retribution--children need more control over their lives. But this isn't about that, this is about the subject of parents needing to prove they'd be suitable parents...definitely SOME sort of screening, probably mandatory ongoing counseling and classes, needs to be enforced.

You bring up an excellent point. I have been meaning to mention this to someone and here you are! Laws requiring parents to pass a test would be ideal in an ideal world. In our very far from ideal world, this would be very difficult to control, I agree with some last comments. It's like trying to police everyone on the street that runs a red light or turns left illegally. It is impossible to manage on a wide scale. My own blood father took me to social services to put me in foster care because he wanted to buy expensive cars and chase women around. My mother had left the family. How do you eradicate narcissism by taking a test? The laws sound very promising. Perhaps it would be more realistic to enforce counselling sessions on people rather than a test. The foster home I was placed in only wanted the girls so the father could molest us (4 in total) and when I called to tell my own father on the phone, he just grunted and did nothing. How about get me outta there??! He should never have been a parent. Plain and simple. Is there such a thing as being able to sue your parent for pain and suffering? There's an idea.

lol about th playstation/virtual baby. I think that is a good idea...but it sends the wrong message. I think that middle school especially is waaayyy too young!! I mean babysitting, or childcare, yes, sure. But I would be careful about the wording of the class or you could end up sending the wrong message to kids. I think if such a class were there, it might be best to stick it in the last year of high school or first year of college, because that is when people start messing up and having kids really early, generally. When it comes to inner city schools, I think such a class would need to be much earlier with the proportion of kids there who are getting pregnant at such a young age. For those kids, a parenting class might be in their freshman or sophomore year of high school.<br />
The best thing though would be, if these tests had to be renewed every year or soemthing, because people could easily forget what they learned.

If you want to do classes, it would be easiest to integrate some form of parenting classes into high/middle school health classes, as their reach is near universal; even those who drop out usually stick around long enough to take health. Of course, that brings us to the issue of "health" classes being a joke in many states. It seems to me that if people are willing to champion comprehensive sex-ed, they should be willing to champion a segment on parenting. I mean, some states/systems already do, to a degree; my school system made us take home economics in middle school, and there was a "virtual baby" that we had to take care of (I got one of the highest scores in the school on it, simply by pulling an all-nighter playing playstation, lol.).

yes, good point what about parents that would not take the test? I guess jail or fine the parents or put the kids in foster care, I mean what else could we do? But definitely they should need to have some sort of classes and counseling...

My thoughts are that parental licensing would be largely fruitless. People are abused by licensed caregivers everyday. Take, for example, children who are abused in daycares. Daycare providers "passed a test", yet children are abused daily in daycares. The same goes for caregivers of the elderly in nursing homes. So far as parenting goes, there already are certain classes of parents required to "pass a test", adoptive and foster parents. All adoptive and foster parents pass a test intended to weed out abusers and the incompetent. Yet, children still suffer abuse at the hands of adoptive and foster parents, people who "passed the test". <br />
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I understand the motive, but requiring parents to "pass a test" isn't going to fix anything, and will simply create more problems. For example, what are we to do with children of parents who refuse to submit to the test?