Opinions Are Meant To Be Changed.

We all make mistakes and hopefully we all learn something from them, because when we dont then we fail to grow as a person.
Two people can have very different opinions on the same subject because of their own experiences and what they chose to learn from them, so really there is never a right or wrong answer and nothing is ever black or white.
I spent so many years with a very fixed opinion on the world and the people in it, and it left me very bitter and hateful at times and i see now that i wasted a great deal of my youth because i didnt form my own opinions.
I still need to get out more and there is much in life i have never experienced, but thanks to a few people who have passed through my life, i realize i dont know it all.
I still have many opinions about many subjects but now i have the wisdom to realise that sometimes im very wrong, and most of the time i enjoy people giving me a different view on things.
Opinions are meant to be changed and i think i have grown more in the past year than the previous ten.

The greatest deception men suffer is from their own opinions.

DiesSomnium DiesSomnium
10 Responses Oct 11, 2011

Ironic you of all peeple post Thys.

I love irony

Wonderfully written. I agree with you that many of us put too much weight on our opinions and we could all learn a lot more about the world if we stop talking and listened every once in a while.<br />
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If not completely wrap our entire self-concept around our opinions (which can and do change), some attachment is healthy, I think. I hear people say that we should not define ourselves by how we look, what we do, what we say, what we think, or what we feel, but who we are, but if that's the case, at least for the last two, what's left other than a shell?<br />
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But I'm speaking from experience from having suffered extreme detachment and disassociation; I would love to feel some passion or conviction in what I think. <br />
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Hey, take a look at that--I just demonstrated your point. :)

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reader #779 checking in. excellent post!

You're right in saying there are many good and bad parents!<br />
But GOD has clearly said, that HE has past the sins of the fathers over to the third and fourth generations of children, born through that father who practices a disobedient lifestyle.<br />
Which means that as a result of how we conduct ourselves in this life as parents,it gets past off to our children and therefore leaves either a good or bad influence in their lives.<br />
You and I both must live within the laws of this world whether we like it or not.<br />
You do have the right to make your own decisions, but you will also pay the consequences for those bad decisions.<br />
Jeremiah 17:10 Says, I the LORD search the heart and examine the mind, to reward a man according to his conduct, according to what his deeds deserve. <br />
You can deceive yourself as long as you live by attempting to justify your own actions.<br />
But when it's all said and done you will discover that GOD's word is flawless! Without error!<br />
But hopefully in your case you will see and know the truth before it's too late.

You have expressed some very wise truths.<br />
There is only one thing that concerns me and that is your viewpoint on having no right or wrong, no black or white issues.<br />
The reality is that we all stumble through life and sometimes thinking that we know something.<br />
The reason we were given parents was teach us how to live, how to make right decisions.<br />
But many young people break away from their parents and chose not to listen to them and therefore suffer the consequences of their actions.<br />
There is only one person that knows what is right, and that's GOD.<br />
HE says, to trust in HIM with all our hearts and to lean not on our own understanding.<br />
And in all our ways to acknowledge HIM and HE will make our paths straight.<br />
Commit to HIM whatever you do and HE will make your plans succeed.<br />
To man belong the plans of the heart but from the LORD comes the reply of the tongue.

After reading the posts above, (after my last comment below), I'd like to stick my opinion in regarding them. For Ray ST: as I'm reading your 1st comment I'm thinking that I don't thinking you are quite tuned into what DiesSomnim was saying, but then again, what I took from it was not right either. What I was understanding was that his 'fixed opinions'
came about from what he learned as a child. But then again, he didn't say that. In fact, he did not mention parents specifically either. I do understand what both of you are saying, however Ray, I didn't feel he was saying life is just a floating right or wrong, good or bad thing. Yes, our parents do serve as a platform from which we learn and their job is to not only love &amp; protect us but also to raise us so that can be successful adults in a confusing world. As we know, not all people can fulfill that responsibility and even if they do, they should raise their children to be able to think for themselves and form their own person. I am lucky in that I had a wonderful mother who said to me, not long before she passed, that she tried to raise us kids right. I responded, without hesitation, that she did raise us right, we didn't always do right, but we do know the difference. Those of us who believe in the Bible, (as I do), know it shows a path of righteousness, but we also were given 'free agency' to choose our own way. Not all people believe that and that is their right. I believe that Dies Somuium is saying that a person can't be closed to all other differences of opinions or standards, we need to choose what we believe to be correct for ourselves and not be so closed minded that we cannot consider another point from someone who sees it from a different angle. There is also the fact that 2 people who think they feel differently about something discover that they agree but express their thoughts in a different manner. OK, that's what I think, for whatever it's worth. I could be right or then again, I could just be out to lunch!

It is very refreshing to read something like this and I feel happy for you. I've always been open-minded about people and how others live their lives. In fact, I find people very interesting and so enjoy talking with others. And yes, we all have our own opinions but I always like hearing what other people have to say, because they might actually have points of view that I hadn't thought of before. If that point makes sense, I'm more than willing to change how I feel about things. You hit the nail right on the head when you said that people's opinions, beliefs & thoughts are ba<x>sed on their experiences or knowledge. While I was reading your post I swear I could feel your excitement at discovering this wonderful part of being human. I always say that you can't say to someone, "You can't really feel/believe that." or "It's wrong for you to feel that way." How does another person know how you feel? What gives someone the right to tell another that their thoughts are wrong? Just because I don't believe the way you do, doesn't make me wrong nor does it make you wrong. Another thing that always gets me is when someone will ask me, "Why does she/he do that?" I just say it like I see it, "I don't know, that's just what they do." I never think about why people do things the way they do, that's just who they are." <br />
So, have lots of fun learning about the other side of the coin.

Very true. It is possible to hold an opinion too strongly. Personally, I quite like the phrase 'agree to disagree'. Because everyone's opinions are equally valid as each other.

I find your comments to be refreshing and well considered. So many of us go through life convinced that everything is black & White, failing to consider that shades of gray exist and truely we think we are stronger because we feel more decisive in views yet in reality we are just moving along with blinders on... You've taken a wonderful step in self development.<br />
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Best to you<br />

"The greatest deception men suffer is from their own opinions<br />
Great line to ponder - thanks!