Hear Hear

I am not a size zero

I have been both overweight and underweight in my life.  This is the first time I have been within the remit of my healthy BMI. 

The most hurtful remarks were directed at me when I was underweight.  People feel they have a licence to attack you in a way that they would outcry overweight slights. We are all different shapes and sizes, we are human beings, individuals, our appearance is of little avail.  After all, you are who you are as your dad and mum got together, so unless you have spent a fortune on cosmetic and reconstructive surgery, you cannot help at all what you look like- it is an accident of birth as is the genetics that make us up- whether we are prone to gain weight or lose weight, the mental issues behind overweight and underweight are not simplistic and often due to eating disorders, manipulation, abuse in other areas of life.

 

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17 Responses Mar 17, 2009

The thinner I got the more family members who were clinically obese would accuse me of not eating enough or saying I was throwing up my food or was anorexic. The only people even former friends who would say stuff mean to me were clinically obese. I have never been obese but I am currently 150 pounds at 5'7". Some say that's chunky, but it's a healthy bmi. I have a 29.5 inch waist and big hips, a small bust. I am 34-29.5-41.5?. A size 13, used to be 104lbs a size 1. 29-23-34? At this weight I get a lot less talk, but a real thin friend 6'2 (no longer friends) 130 pounds eats like a bird called me chunky at this weight. He's seen me as low as 125. Anyway, at 104 pounds me and him had the same bmi but no more. I even ate more then him. He can't even finish a 6 inch sub from subway. Not that it matters, but I found it odd. Anyway, I want to lose weight, but because I loved my body and want to fit in my old clothes. I usually at 1,200 calories when I was thin. Now I eat around 1,900 to maintain. The farthest I have gone was exercising a lot when I was thin, i was once a vegetarian for 3 months, i have fasted...once 4 days....that was extreme but it was to see if I had self control....Hunger does go away...I always wanted to know if it did. Anyway, I think it's dumb to not eat for a day. It's better to eat healthy and exercise.

The thinner I got the more family members who were clinically obese would accuse me of not eating enough or saying I was throwing up my food or was anorexic. The only people even former friends who would say stuff mean to me were clinically obese. I have never been obese but I am currently 150 pounds at 5'7". Some say that's chunky, but it's a healthy bmi. I have a 29.5 inch waist and big hips, a small bust. I am 34-29.5-42?. A size 13, used to be 104lbs a size 1. 32-23-34? At this weight I get a lot less talk, but a real thin friend 6'2 (no longer friends) 130 pounds eats like a bird called me chunky at this weight. He's seen me as low as 125. Anyway, at 104 pounds me and him had the same bmi but no more. I even ate more then him. He can't even finish a 6 inch sub from subway. Not that it matters, but I found it odd. Anyway, I want to lose weight, but because I loved my body and want to fit in my old clothes.

I think it is awful either way to have something said about being too heavy or too thin. You are right there are a lot of emotional reasons why a person can be overweight or under weight. I mean how horrible if you were underweight due to going through chemotherapy or radiation treatments because you had cancer or even if a person had an eating disorder! People can really be cruel! It's just wrong either way!

pretty sure when i was a skinny little walking death patient I was most miserable... and thats why i hate that quote too.<br />
flutter you always have awesome posts :)<br />
I just don't think it's fair to make fun of people in general. and some of the most hurtful things were said to me when i was at my unhealthy weight too. :( it was ******. people are dumb.

Note to self: 1. do not patronize Arorin.<br />
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it's sad ppl are so shallow.

You only seen a face shot. And probably one of the hundreds that i would ever put up to be shown. People can stop saying sorry to me?

Okay Arorin - I just saw your pic and you are adorable.. what are you freakin' talking about?!?!?!

I am the great arorin of course im alright. Even if i am not being picked on or people mature later on in life. I still do not want to look ugly in other peoples eyes. Both inside and out.

Oh one of my favorites: <BR><BR>"You don't look like you used to be fat"<BR><BR>What's that supposed to mean? Am I supposed to have a mark on my forehead like the anti christ or something?

it's so hard being overweight. my son is traveling along the same path due to medication side effects and psyc problems. it tears me up cuz I KNOW what its like to be the 'weird fat kid'. <BR><BR>~ this makes me sad ~<br />
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(((((((((( HUGS ARORIN AND FLUTTERS ))))))))))

Arorin buddy you ok ..... hows it going

Yeah. I felt like that all through Junior High. Seemed to get better as I aged, and got around more mature people. Hang in there, lion!

It isn't some people but more like everyone i ever physically met. I dunno what it is that makes me so bad in the eyes of others. I am honest i work hard i am friendly to most people and life still deals me a bad hand.

I got treated pretty bad. My looks led to my unpopularity in school which led to people who hated me so much they actually tried to kill me.

I am built big. No matter what i do i will never be skinny just because of my body type. I can be mostly muscle and i am still going to look fat with my cloths on. It sucks to have most people think you are ugly. I mean really what can i do about it?

yeah - I used to be very heavy and It's amazing how differently I am treated now that I am a 'normal' weight.<BR><BR>People equate skinny with happiness, and it just aint so. I still feel like that fat chick inside.<BR><BR>

It really sucks to be looked down on because of what you look like. I know all about it.