All Because of Perfectionists !

I can say that i like ( but not love yet) a perfectionist .............at work.

They get the work on time , wont slack off behind the boss and are up to date about everything !

And thats just great until miss/mister perfectionist decides he should apply the same to his/her dating life !

 

Big mistake !

 

you may wonder what the hell am i going on about ?

The thing is i met one of them through college and it was basically hell , well a perfect HELL!

I am talking about those people who wont give you a second date/opportunity just becuase you had some piece of vegetable , meat or whatever stuck in your teeth ( C'ommon , if you hate to see such scene dont freaking choose to go to a restaurant on the first place )

Or because you said something that sounded either dorky , stupid , or nonsensical but not really offensive . These nazis from hell would take it as the ultimate reason to wonder what did i really do wrong for about a week!

People who find fault in everything aggravates me and make me feel bad for them cuz in the end its going to be a lonely road where no one is GOING TO BE GOOD ENOUGH FOR THEM!

You can expect rewards for perfect accomplishments at work , but in the dating world No one is ever going to meet all their standards , and if you dont relax ....you loose , but gain a lot of frustation !!

 

Theres also the stupid pressure to put on a show so that the other person likes us inmediatly !

But what do we really gain from lying anyways the "target " is going to find out sooner or later that you actually suck at scuba diving ?

Theres a precious value which has been lost and that is friendship before jumping into a relationship status , right there you can really judge me cause you know about me and you are not assuming anything like it happens on dates !

For all these reasons , and more i am a dateless woman!

 

 

 

 

 

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1 Response Mar 5, 2009

Sorry you feel this way.... I'm one of those pefectionist!<br />
I'm always at work on time. I don't slack off... and I'm usually up to date on everything. <br />
Never lose my keys.. and when I say I'll met you at 3:00, I'll be there!!! <br />
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Yet, being a perfectionist has it's own set of flaws... I'm thinking.... life can be predictable!!!!<br />
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So I find myself attracted toward the less perfect... <br />
someone with some unexpected adventure built in. <br />
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I'll add... my perfectionism is only in selected areas... <br />
like, "time punctuation", or making sure I follow through with what I say... ie being dependable. <br />
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It's sounds like this person your talking about may have perfectionist traits... yet that's not the issue I see. <br />
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I see more of a... negative outlook.... on his part. ..and you don't want that no matter what!!! Thank God no second date!! <br />
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It's our imperfections that make us special as people... we search to find someone that has imperfections we can live with.., accept, and learn to embrace. ..and then hope they feel the same way about ours!!!!!!! <br />
God we hope!!!!! <br />
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Would love to talk more if your interested... <br />
Good luck!!