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Daydreaming And Overthinking

I have a bit of a love hate relationship with my imagination, i love that i can loose myself in thought and spend what would otherwise be boring hours daydreaming and amusing myself, i honestly look forward to daydreaming. I love being on my own and just imagining scenarios in my life, other peoples lives, tv programmes and books, it's like watching or living in stories you've written yourself that are perfect for your mood. I worry though that i spend too much time in my head and not enough in reality, it seems wrong to sometimes enjoy your own company more than socializing, i don't want to waste my life dreaming and not living.



i also over think and obsess about unimportant things, i have an obsessive fear of death that i get stuck in sometimes and it takes days to stop thinking about. I constantly question which can be a good thing but not always, sometimes I'd like to just be, to accept things without analysing every detail. I worry about what other people think and expect of me. I obsess about stupid things and i don't know why, for example things that i think are perfectly acceptable like relationships with age gaps, I'm not going out with any one right now and I'm not looking for anyone in particular, it's just something that i think can work for some people , there's no one older than me that i like in that way but just because during a conversation my friends once said they think it's weired that any one would go out with someone older, i couldn't stop thinking about what they'd think if i did, then what my parents would think and how people in the  street would look at us. I got really depressed over a situation that's unlikely to ever happen and ive never thought about before, i do this over everything. I also always have a perfect picture of how I'd like things to be in my life but when it comes to it iv'e made my expectations so high that nothings ever as good as i want it to be.



There are other good things, i get obsessed in a good way sometimes, like if i love a tv show, i get swept into it, the story thee fan followings, i think about it constantly, daydream about it and get into the music, clothes, everything to do with it and it's really fun its a rush and you feel part of something great.



That's it i think, i don't know what else to write,  i hate the negative obsession and worry over other people and what they think and i get very depressed and trapped by my mind, maybe i just need more confidence and it would be ok. I love my imagination and i think it's important to question and analyse and think for ourselves, not just accepting what were told to think, i just wish i could turn it off sometimes.

fartogo fartogo 22-25, F 10 Responses Apr 10, 2010

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I am soooo similar to this post...but the "obsessive fear of death that i get stuck in sometimes and it takes days to stop thinking about" is the most common one and its just horrible...

I feel the same way. My over-thinking gets on my way all the time causing awkward moments and I try to avoid them but my thoughts interrupt me all the time! I feel... man, I can't even explain my situation. Sometimes it's hard for me to concentrate and I have to admit at times my emotions get on my way. I believe that it has to do a lot with our past. Maybe the people who made us this way or what we want people to think of us. I have so much to say and living this way is making my life difficult. I wished it stopped but I can't.

I understand. This is something we analyzers must deal with. We must overcome the negative thoughts about what other people think etc. we will never please everyone. So why not decide which ones are worth your time and thoughts. Im not saying be rude to everyone but they need to respect your views/opinions/thoughts just as you respect theirs. Happy thinking

this has been me my whole life! People say I am very book smart but "ditzy" "in my own world" etc. etc. ......I am starting to think maybe I have ADD or something because my mind just keeps going and going and I don't know how to relax. You're not alone on that !

I feel ya, I love daydreaming but sometimes it feels like I'm so into it, I forget my real life. But it's good to know there's a lot of us who spend hours lost in our own thoughts.

Hmmm... I seem to be in a better position than you. Cos the thoughts are not bothering me that much the way they seem to be bothering you. Let's look at it this way. Sometimes you find it fun and sometimes you feel uneasy. When you find it fun, enjoyy and relish your company. When you seem to worry, then STOP THINKING and get busy in an activity you like to do like dancing, skating, jogging, painting, singing, gaming etc. Or call up or meet a friend and talk to him or her for some time. Go out, roam around and have some fresh air. Make new friends, join hobby clubs in your city. Practice a new talent or an art. Things like this happen generally when we are idle. It's like the famous quote from SHAWSHANK REDEMPTION: Get busy living or get busy dying :)

I can definitely feel how you feel on this! I have such a hard time sticking to reality myself i am always constantly worrying and daydreaming about myself or others or things that dont make any sense at all. I also sit and wounder where it comes from. I'm in this constant battle with myself and my mind.

OMG! OMG! OMG! You seem to be my clone! Seriously, I find myself in every line you wrote. Kudos for the analysis. And I should also appreciate Singleliving's clear cut analysis. I totally agree wid her. It's wonderfully articulated. Even I fall in the middle category tending/inclined towards the first.

OMG! OMG! OMG! You seem to be my clone! Seriously, I find myself in every line you wrote. Kudos for the analysis. And I should also appreciate Singleliving's clear cut analysis. I totally agree wid her. It's wonderfully articulated. Even I fall in the middle category tending/inclined towards the first.

fartogo, this sounds exactly like me! when i read what you've said, its as if ive written it myself! I also worry that i spend too much time in my head and not enough in reality, and i definitely don't want to waste my life dreaming and not living. but i feel this is the case a lot of the time. and it freaks me out :|