Keeping It Classy

There are no rules if you're wise, tasteful, highly selective, mentally astute. If you're an adult man or woman with a moral code, spiritual values, self-respect, then there's absolutely no need for rules. Break All The Rules! Rules Aren't Cool! Rules Are For Fools!

hey i liked ur story and i can understand wats goin on in ur mind , u r actually right every one has same right to express themselves . u rocks

I love this story, it is so true. While I don't know any on your list, I could add my own and they have helped me so much to understand who and what I want out of life. There may be a dark side to EP, but I have experienced the side you write about and it more than makes up for the rest.

I love your allstar cast of EP woman. I so agree, they are all classy woman, who are not afraid to speak their sexuality. Let me also say that much of the stigma, ie trashy vs classy is in the eye of the beholder. I have seen very modest women chastised because someone was jealous of the attention she got from men. Some times it is not how you dress or even look, but how you project. Men love strong, confident woman. boys like trashy girls.

You made your point perfectly clear here.

I loved this! It certainly is a very fine line...comparable to walking a tightrope when you live in smalltown, USA, lol. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this, I agree. I have experience with downplaying my sexuality out of fear of being socially stigmatized as one of those "trashy" girls :)

Being open about your sexuality is healthy. And as for classy vs. trashy or slutty - within the bounds of a loving relationship, NOTHING is off-limits or slutty; if its something both want to explore and enjoy!

Aww thanks!! Finding you was AWESOME too!



The best any of us can do for us, each other and everybody else is just be REAL and honest about who we are...

Playing fake or marching to somebody else's rules takes the joy right out of life. None of us will be liked or agreed with all the time.... Who cares..If we are true to ourselves and the ones we honestly love we don't need the ones who would say we're wrong anyway!!

Be real, Have FUN and ENJOY life! Best darn advice I ever got and followed to a Tee!! :D

Very well said. I couldn't agree more.

I am so glad to be here and to read trough beautiful comments about self esteem..Its fun to be here and would love to make more friends.

Great story and well said!



I grew up in a VERY religious household so everything was off limits. You could go straight to hell over a simple kiss. It took a long time to learn that sex is ok and damn good, ******** are fantastic and ok, pda is ok, being feisty is ok. Some of it I learned the hard way but I am much happier for it and still eager to learn.



Thanks for the mention! You have been pretty awesome yourself! Very supportive, honest and quite the confidant.

Ahh... but then again... I think that there are a lot of people who just enjoy putting others down, and will use whatever's handy to do it, be they or their victim men or women.

I NEVER THOUGHT ANYTHING WAS WRONG WITH SEX ITS A BASIC PART OF LIFE LIKE WALKING EATING AND BREATHING ITS A BEAUTIFUL GIFT AS WE ALL KNOW SO ALL THIS TALK ABOUT SEXBEING BAD OR EVILMUST STOP IT ONLY MAKES A PERSON FEEL WORSE WE ALL ARE SEXUAL BEINGS LETS ALL ACCEPT WHAT WE ARE WITHOUT JUDGEMENT. VINNY

The people who make rules about how we should behave sexually are probably the people whom we do not wish to attract.



People with low sex drives don't want to talk about sex, don't want to give or receive oral sex, don't want sex every day, or even once a week, don't prefer a good shag to a walk in the park, don't make suggestive sexual comments to their partner, don't try different sexual positions and act out their sexual fantasies, don't go topless sunbathing, don't go out without knickers or flash their boobs outside for a saucy photograph. To summarize they don't want to be sexually demonstrative people so try to inhibit anyone who freely rejoices in their own sexuality and that of others.



You just have to be yourself, do what you want to do and give yourself permission to be you, otherwise you will be lumbered with narrow minded sexless bigots.



It is inexcusable to label women who give sex freely as tarts and similar men as studs. Sexual equality and complete duality should be a universal right throughout the world.

Oh, and rated up, obviously! ;-)

You need to add your own name to that list!



You've been a great person to talk to and laugh with, and you're incredibly classy and sexy. The two aren't mutually exclusive.



This was a great post, and not because my name was in it, but rather because you verbalized so well the contradictions in expectations society at large places on women.

Amen, That is refreshing. That confusion is the life I live. I appreciate the honesty I find on EP and in person when I meet EP people. Keep up the sexy and the confidence. It is aluring!

"There's a very fine line between acceptable and slutty."

 

I don't think that that's really the problem, so much as it seems that everyone draws the line in a different place, can't really define it, and acts like it was carved in stone. The great feat is to find the line for yourself, stick to it, and not be floored by the judgements and comments of others.