I Think We Create Too Many Rules Around Sexuality

Being A Lil Freaky In Bed Makes Finding The Right Girl Impossible

By: milehighHeartbreak

Written on February 4th, 2013

so i'm not like a pervert or anything... I just like to be a little bad I guess...

Don't get me wrong, I like having regular, missionary, soft, loving sex too - but if that's all you have everytime, it's boring!
I like to have my girlfriend be my ****... is that really that bad?
I absolutely don't want her to BE a **** and share it with any other guy...
but I want my girlfriend to be slutty with me - its just hot! I love a girl that's oral too - not just head, but kiss me everywhere! I love a feminine mouth kissing n sucking anywhere on my body - especially my ear, I think because I hear her moaning then.
I like to be a little rough, toss a girl around, when I want to change positions, I don't always want to ask - it's one of the main reasons that I like petite women!
It's fun to 'feel like a man' tossing a girl around and being encouraged to just do whatever I want...
I like to have some dirty talk - calling you "my little ****" , "naughty *****", or "sexy *****" , doesn't mean that I don't respect you. It's just ******* hot!
One of the sexiest things for me for some reason, is to hold one of my hands on your neck - kind of choking (really just light squeezing) you a little... I don't know why, not actually constricting your airflow, but just squeezing n having that control while I look into a girl's eyes, while having sex, is just very very sexy.
I like to pull hair, slap your face lightly (with my hand or.... something else ;) lol )
It's all just for fun and when done right - it's amazing and feels GREAT!
Then, if you have rough sex like that sometimes, when you have soft, loving sex - it means so much more and I think conveys more emotion and passion.

A couple keys - She has to LOVE it, not endure it, not do it for me cause I like it, but LOVE it.
I like a loud girl - let it out, I WANT the neighbors to hear - I enjoy the awkward looks I get the days after from them! What's the worst? They'll call the cops? It's happened before and I hope it'll happen again, it's just good 'clean' adult fun!

Anyway - so apparently I'm not like everyone - I've heard that this kind of sex is 'demeaning' or things along that line. I couldn't disagree more. I'm like the kindest person on the planet, and insanely loyal and honest. I treat women with respect, and my girl, I always treat like a princess - it gives me pleasure to please the girl I'm interested in - in all ways, even beyond the bedroom.

So the point is, it's so difficult to find a girl that I like, that I can get along with well, that likes me back and treats me well too...
Plus she's gotta be kinda freaky apparently...

I thought I found the right girl... I was really dead certain of it... but she proved me wrong - I'm pretty concerned I'm going to be forced by my personal relationship standards, and circumstances, into being a hermit for the rest of my life.

By: milehighHeartbreak

Age: 31-35 , Male

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16 responses

voyeuristicX2

She's out there believe me. I'm one. It seems like it took forever for my husband and I to find each other. I was the same way and never quite met that person that could totally wow me sexually. DO NOT settle, you will never be happy. Maybe try looking outside your typical area. My husband and I's home cities were nearly 800 miles apart and we found each other by chance. We discovered that the type of man I wanted was abundant in his area and the type of woman he wanted was abundant in mine. Don't be afraid to search outside your comfort area. Good Luck!

Apr 11
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dazedandconfusedone

I am surprised to hear that you can't find a lady who enjoy this kind of sex. (It's right up my alley.) Keep looking, I am sure the right girl is out there.

Mar 26
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- milehighHeartbreak
  i think you phrased it perfectly, but by accident... I can't find a "lady" who enjoys this kind of sex!! I thought I had found the right girl, but she certainly didn't treat me in the way I would expect from a lady... It's like I have to choose between sex or relationship qualities....
  
  Mar 27
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- dazedandconfusedone
  That's definitely not a choice you should have to make. Hold out for the right lady.
  
  Mar 27
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itsgood2beback

I don't think it's that demeaning if u both enjoy it.. I heard of a lot more demeaning things than that..anyways hope u find the right girl,good luck finding her :)

Mar 3
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- milehighHeartbreak
  agreed, i don't think it's demeaning at all - i could probably think of a few more, but i wasn't going to like type out absolutely everything that i think is fun :)
  -thanks for the well wishes
  
  Mar 27
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CapiGirl420

I think there are a lot more women out there that enjoy this than you may think. In fact I wish my husband would take more control like you described. I have always been the more dominant one in our bed and have lately been craving for someone to call the shots and take what he wants from me. My husband isn't comfortable calling me such names as you described and **** much quicker when my dominance emerges.

Mar 3
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- milehighHeartbreak
  I hope there are lots of women that prefer this- I wonder though if it's that a person is either one or the other... I had a GF long ago that tried to make me submissive (dripping wax, tied my hands, spanked me like once- before I put a stop to that, lol) and I hated every minute of it.
  Also, absolutely if you're used to regular sex, and then it actually gets exciting - it makes me *** way faster too. The brain is the most erogenous zone, I read somewhere... If a girl like has never said anything dirty, then while giving head says something like "i want you to *** in my mouth so bad" - well, lets just say she shouldn't say it unless she's ready to be done :)
  
  Mar 27
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friendsonly

Don't give up! There are us out here that like our sex spiced up. You just have to keep the communication happening. My current lover has introduced variety as we have become more comfortable with each other. I have been having some of the best sex of my life as I'm not worrying about something is acceptable. If it appeals to the 2 of us it's game

Mar 3
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dragonflypoet

Having the same problem finding a balance. I don't want to play games to get what I want, but it's true... I read JessCh28 and yes... us freaky girls hide it and make ourselves miserable when we find someone we "really" like. So frustrating.

Feb 27
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- milehighHeartbreak
  I just don't understand why... From what you and jess say, it seems like any girl that i have really good sex with, will not care about me even if I care about them. Why is that? Is that really the price of good sex?
  
  Mar 3
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- dragonflypoet
  no. Its just scary and a bit more intimidating to show the "real" you and to risk being rejected, laughed at, disrespected... does that make sense? Really good sex involves releasing ALL your inhibitions and when you like someone a whole lot, well that is the fastest way to get your heart broken. It's backwards but I feel more free when I honestly don't care if the guy ever calls me again. Thats just the weird place that I am in right now. Doesn't mean all girls feel this way. Or maybe we are that predictable. Who knows?
  
  Mar 4
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need4something

I am a gal who likes it just as you described! It's fun to be wild and naughty....so hot. Sex is for fun, and if both people aren't loving it, then what is the point? I hope you find the right girl. You are right on target.

Feb 16
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JessCh28

Coming from the sluty girl who would LOVE to be a **** for that ONE special guy...it takes some serious trust for me to go with a guy that I REALLY like and have the "nasty" "freaky" sex that would normally get me off. As a woman were told nowadays that guys want a lady in the streets but a freak in the sheets...I call BS, but that's just based off my own personal exsperiance. From my experiance, guys don't want to fall in love with the monogamous ****, she great for a mistress or something to that affect, but to settle down with her...no way.
So I guess in short there most definitly that monogamous **** out there for you, you just have to have an open mind and lots of patience, because most likely she's been through the same crap & bs that I have and its going to take a lot of trust for her to truely open up sexually to any one she's taking seriously in a relationship.
If you should come across a girl who readily "puts out" "freaky" sex with you- and she's not putting on a show for you, she truely enjoys it...she most likely does not view you as relationship material. I am speaking as a woman who has a couple of guys who take care of me, but its understood that there will never be a relationship between us, I simply could never trust them for anything more then what we have. When that guy who knows I'm worth the time and effort to earn my trust and intimacy, then ill be only HIS ****.

Don't give up, just always be honest with yourself and those around you and you'll find her, don't worry.

Feb 15
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- milehighHeartbreak
  I don't understand why if I have good sex with a girl, that because its freaky, it means she doesn't really care about me? How come?
  
  Mar 3
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DoeEyedOwl

Love. This. You sound. A.m.a.z.I.n.g. I would LOVE to sleep with you. ;)

Feb 8
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