Don't Be The One Who.....

My Irish blood is boiling and I just have to yell about something.  I'm fed up!!!!

I'm fed up with the secret pm's left in my box saying "I wish I could join the ones who flag mean, harassing or scary comments but I don't want to make anyone mad at me so...  but good luck cause I hate the trolls and mean comments and I'm afraid."

WHAT THE HELL?????  do you enjoy being harassed and in constant fear?  Do you not care that your stories and those of your friends are being bombarded with hurful, spiteful, demeaning comments?? Do you turn a blind eye to the comments left on a cry for help that actually are meant to harm that person?

My answer to all of you is "GROW SOME BRASS ONES AND FIGHT BACK!!!!"  That may be  a bit crude but I told you I was mad!  I'm tired of seeing how many views a plea for help has gotten but only 4 or 5 have the guts to actually help.   Groups like "I Think EP has dropped the ball" have gotten almost 300 views but a mere 10 people are brave enough to join and show they want EP to enforce their own rules of usage for this site.  That is disturbing. 

Don't be the one who cowers in the corner and let's everyone else fight your battles.

Don't be the one who stands on the sidelines and watches while some poor soul gets the crap beat out of them and you don't lift a finger to help.

Don't be the one who put's cotton in your ears or turns up the volume on your tv so you won't have to hear the screams and cries for help when a neighbor is hurting and in trouble.

Don't be that one who says , "aaww, isn't that too bad, thank goodness nobody is bothering me" and go on your merry way not caring enough about your fellow Epeeps to even give them a word of encouragement. 

Please, don't become a part of the uncaring, unfeeling masses of humanity who take a secret pleasure in the misery of others.

I understand the psychological phenomenon of the bystander effect.  You think that there are so many who are willing to intervene that your responsibility becomes less and less until you don't make a move to help at all.  Not true, your responsibility becomes greater as the trolls multiply and those who delight in harassing others become braver and more depraved.

We are a community.

We are neighbors.

Take a stand, don't be a "bystander".

If you choose to continue to ignore this problem, it is on your head when EP folds and you have nowhere to go to enjoy meeting friends, writing stories or just enjoying time away from this maddening rat race we call life.  At some point the good people of EP will pack up and leave and you will be left with the trolls of will you feel then?  My guess is you will wish you had fought back and helped EP restore this site to what it was meant to be.....a wonderful place to come.

giggles4488 giggles4488
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14 Responses Feb 22, 2010

I know, absofabo, sometimes it's hard to stand up and say we don't like the trolls or the silly fighting back and forth and sniping at one another but we should. Ignoring the problems only makes them worse. I hope things will change. Thank you for your comments and I'm happy that we have people like you on EP who DO care! :)

I just read a story where someone wrote "she has never been mean to me". Keep sticking your heads in the sand. Ignorance is bliss!

This is one of the best stories I have read in a long time. Fight apathy, rock on lady!

Oh, that's okay. I've had that happen to me. I write a comment and it flies off into cyber space never to be seen again.....wonder what happens to all those "lost" words??? Thanks!

Abooklover ~ thank you!

Always, trooper, always. You're a good man!

Miss Angelwings, I am glad to see you are doing so well! <br />
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This has really got your Irish up doesn't it Miss Giggles!! Good, and you know you can count on me to help "fight the good fight" as Cheeky so rightly put it.

I'm with you. Fighting the good fight! Huzzah!!!!!

Cheeky, thank you so much. I know you are a fighter and I'm happy you are my friend. Without good people like you and Angelwings and LittleFerrett I'm not sure I could keep up the good fight! But knowing you are all as concerned as I am makes me stronger.....we will win this one!

aww np :)

LittleFerrett ~ ((HUGS)) right back at you!! Thanks, you are a good friend ;)<br />
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Angelwings ~ Bravo! I am so happy to hear how well you are doing. I know we don't talk often (I am still a total night person haha) but I think of you often and you and your family are always in my prayers for health and happiness. We came together as friends in a most unusual and not very pleasant way but it was meant to be. I am thankful each day for good friends like you. Bless you. Hugs and love, and know I am always here if you need anything. Love, J

KUDOS GIGGLES>>!!!! My Gloves have been off for a while. SO you know I'm with you on this one. BROVO!

WOW! (((HUGS)))<br />
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that was amazing! i completely and totally agree with you.<br />
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again (((HUGS)))

Oh thank you so much, you are truly an angel! I don't want to leave and I definitely won't be pushed off by those "trolls" :) It has been my saving grace to be able to come to ep and as you say, let my hair down and talk with good friends, post my stories and enjoy a moment away from the outside world. Haha, I'm not much of a leader either but if we all at least try to watch out for each other we can fight to keep ep what it was meant to be....a place of healing and encouragement. Again, thank you so much, Love, J