I Thought Venus Should Know
Let’s just face it: the whole issue of “generalizing” genders is heavily one-sided and we all know it and need to be honest about it. We tend to think it’s unfair to say all or most women are a certain way, but usually don’t counter or disagree with generalizations about men, and that’s just the truth of the matter. You often have not only women but also men generalizing men or agreeing with women’s generalizations of men, but turn it around and almost all hell breaks loose when you say all or most women are so and so. It's fact if someone says all or most men are a certain way, but just "ignorant" opinions if someone says all or most women are a certain way.
It tickles me how much there is a double standard about what the genders can say about each other. It doesn't matter what anyone says, it's been proven that women's words about men are acceptable, but not vice versa--plus, women will play the "generalization" card if men say something about most or all women. We know that men try to defend themselves by telling women they can't generalize about all men, but this cry typically isn't acknowledged. I have tested this. In making statements about most or all women to women, almost all of them were quick to say "You can't generalize like that. Somewomen do/are such-and-such, but you can't say all women." Yet they will make statements about all or most men, and when I challenge them, they'll say, "Most of the men I've known are like this/do do that." Yet if I persist in my idea about most women, they'll get backed into a corner and then say, "Well, none of the women I know are like that." So my word or the word of experience from other men with women becomes just a "generalization," but their word of experience with men becomes the gospel!Here is where many women’s - and men’s for that matter - anti-generalization attitude loses merit: in general - that’s right, I said it - women don't want to be generalized when it comes to bad or less-than-perfect things being attributed to them, yet they are all too happy and eager to generalize themselves when it comes to great or praiseworthy qualities or behaviors they think they have, and happy to accept these positive generalizations from others. Hell will be raised if women are generalized in a less-than-perfect light, and “proof” will be demanded for those broad statements, but raise a woman up in a glorifying light and no proof is needed for the claim, nor are there defensive responses saying “all women” aren’t the great thing that they are credited for, nor are you told that your statements are too broad and unfair. It becomes absolutely perfect and wonderful to give women vast credit for good things! And these are just the things that actually should demand proof.
Bottomline: if women can easily accept generalizations of praise, they should also be just as willing to accept those not praiseworthy. Or better yet, be more careful about generalizing themselves when it comes to positives.
By:
AllStarcrushNate
Age:
26-30
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Male
