Just One Coworker Really....

Life sure would be better if I moved my desk away from him!  He sits in the next cube to me and I don't know what I did to this guy but he makes it known that he doesn't like me at all.  When we first moved next to each other (company moved everyone in one building and we didn't get a choice who we sat next to) he was nice and freindly, then almost over night he changed to not talking to me, looking the other way when I said good morning to him, when I do speak to him he never answers.  Then he laughs and jokes with everyone else BUT me.  I mean his behavior is so obvious but he is a well liked guy so no one says anything.  I am just so irritated with him!  I want to move desks so bad just to get away from him!

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2 Responses Mar 2, 2010

This person sounds like a waste of your time. I'm sorry you're stuck sitting next to him. If you don't really need to talk to him, don't. When he sees he can't ruin your day by his behavior it'll probably annoy HIM. Some people enjoy torturing others. Its their entertainment unfortunately. You can't control how he treats you, though you can control how you react to it. Good Luck.

Medomai this fellow is demonstrating sociopath traits-- manipulating your emotions for his own remorseless satisfaction. It's probably not something he can control, and most likely the "laughing and joking" he's doing with others around you and him is exxagerated and not as well-received as you think. But you, being new to the workplace, aren't yet able to pick up the subtle clues of distancing themselves from him that his other co-workers are sending out. As you say, 'his behaviour is so obvious", and that's because the other workers have seen it all before in him, and are rolling their eyes at his obnoxiousness. Try to let it roll off you, pity this poor misfit and move away from him emotionally and reach out to the others in your workplace-- they feel your pain, but can't help you until you see that it's him, not you, who is out of place. Good luck.