No Other Way For Me

I hope I don't come across as self-righteous or anything - because that is not what I mean when I say, I don't really know how to treat others any differently than like I would like to be treated (although, I will admit it is a struggle to remember this when dealing with husband - or sometimes any family member - funny how we sometimes treat those closest to us the worst).

The problem I have with this is that people disappoint me a lot when they don't adopt this same principle in their treatment of me.

I have the gift of empathy so I very often FEEL for people and their situations so treating them like they should be treated is what I feel compelled to do - does that make sense?

DorothyofOz DorothyofOz
41-45, F
5 Responses Mar 20, 2009

Northtrack - I often wonder about that - that "takers" never learn - because I think my husband just may be a "taker" and I wonder if he will ever learn... And this "giver" has felt like giving UP the last 2 years but instead I keep on "giving" and he seems to not be able to keep on "taking" - sigh!

Thanks FL - I would imagine that you would - you are another one of those sweet souls out there!! Thanks for the hugs too!

I understand where you are coming from with this-hugs

Why am I not surprised that you relate to this?? We seem to have a lot of the same thoughts and feelings on life!<br />
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I find though, lately, that I am getting angry that more people don't treat me with the same respect that I treat them. It makes me want to look out for myself more BUT then I feel guilty for it and then I feel worse - I think I'm doomed - LOL!!

makes perfect sense. i go through the same thing, where i just feel for others so deeply that treating them as i'd wanted to be treated in their situation comes naturally. it's hard for me to imagine doing otherwise.<br />
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and yes, it does seem like those closest to us often get the biggest taste of our bad side--but then again, that's part of what makes us human!