It's A Terrible Place To Be...I recently tried the online dating scene as it had been suggested to me by a FEMALE friend of mine. (That was my first mistake). So I thought I'd give it a go and see where it leads. Needless to say I wasn't all too impressed. I think dating sites can be detrimental to one's ego and psyche in general. If you're a woman it can inflate your ego to the point where you lose respect for people's feelings and the impact you have on others. If you're a man it can seriously damage your self esteem, leaving you feeling disillusioned, bitter and jaded. You only have to go on YouTube to see how people feel about the online dating world. It really is a harsh place to advertise yourself in.
Anyway. After altering my profile, and trying everything I could to make myself seem more appealing without lying, I decided to give up on the whole thing as it was simply doing my head in and to be quite honest, it was making me become borderline depressed. Here's what I ended up leaving on my profile instead.
Excerpt from profile:
Here goes my rant.
Firstly let me just say this. Having a half naked picture of myself up does not mean that I am a man *****, attention seeker and or insecure about my personality in any way, shape or form. This would be the equivalent of me judging a woman and labelling her a **** ba
I'm not going to stay here for long. My reasons for leaving are quite simple really. The main reason being that I have some level of self respect for myself.
One thing that both the men and the women on this site need to realise is that this should be a place for you to get to meet and KNOW someone without the effort of having to leave your front door. What I seem to be running into are profiles of women asking men to entertain them. What the hell??? Do I look like a clown to you? Don't answer that. Lol. Seriously though. Is that the basis of a good relationship? He makes me laugh? This just shows me how immature most women on here are. You want a man to entertain you because you're bored and not a life partner. You don't even seem to care if the person in front of you is kind or decent. Of course you say you do but that's not really true. What you value is mainly superficial. Not what is within the person but what is outside. That is such a shame because most of you women will continuallu choose the wrong types of guys because of your superficiality when it comes to decision making.
May I ask you one thing ladies? Would it kill you to be polite? I know that there are plenty of guys here sending you messages and what not but some of the stories I've heard have left me doubting the goodness of the creature that I once thought beautiful and delicate. Truth be told it has left me slightly jaded. And though I have only experienced this to a very small degree I can certainly relate with the men that feel this way. Don't believe me? Why don't you go on YouTube and type in "POF sucks". You'll soon find out.
Now, a lot of women complain about how there are no "nice guys" etc. What a load of bull. When you can't even be asked to simply BE NICE... What does that say about you? Are you NICE? What you don't realise is that most of you women are creating these so called "jerks", womanisers, mysoginistic, women hating, anti feminist men. I know you get a lot of messages and you can't respond to all of them sometimes. Some messages don't deserve a response but there are some messages that are sent to you in good spirit with nothing but sweetness. Well articulated and maybe even funny. Without a jot of rudeness or malice. When you CHOOSE not to even respond to those do you know what you are doing? You are sending out the message to these men that it doesn't matter if you are nice, funny, charming or polite. I WILL NOT give you the time of day. So what do guys do? They stop being nice, polite, funny, charming or polite. And as a result they begin to see women with these dark tinted shades where all women are perceived as "*******", not deserving of one's respect. That is the result of the failed interactions that occur here.
I've all but given up hope in this place. Just a little bit tired of the false generic lines dished out by the majority of the women on here about "just wanting to meet a nice, honest, caring and genuine guy". When that in fact is not what you go for. Hence the multiple bad boy experiences. And then comes the all too common, "I just seem to pick the wrong guys..." statement. I think the majority of the people on here are either not ready for a relatiosnhip or just simply not looking for one. I think a lot of women on here are merely seeking attention to boost their egos. Knocking down others in the process. It must feel good to be able to do such a thing and still be able to sleep at night.
Okay so I was a little angry when I wrote this. Truth be told I'm a little bit embarassed reading it back now as I am more aware of the dynamics and logistics that are at play when it comes to online dating.
What dynamics and logistics you might ask? Hopefully the video below will be able to explain what I'm talking about. Check it out.
IT DOESN'T WORK I TELL YOU!!!