Online Dating Isn'T What It Used To BeActually, so is basically all of the internet but anyway... here's my story about online dating:
As my username suggests, I'm not exactly a very average individual (too thoughtful, idealistic, non-conform, honest - to just give a very brief, rough portrait for why most people despise me). Add to that the fact that I was very shy as a teenager, I went to a school that was mostly attended by boys and I didn't (and still don't) like to party and you can guess why I never even got a chance to talk to girls, period. And whenever I did, they were just these shallow chicks, obviously just interested in similarly shallow guys.
Enter online dating. That was about 12 years ago.
And for the first time in my life, I was able to get to know girls who were as unusual as me. Which is also how I met my first girlfriend when I was 18.
For about five more years, I kept meeting quite a few interesting women that way, resulting in two more relationships.
But then, something changed. Nice and thoughtful people started to dwindle in numbers on dating sites, getting replaced by people who frequently had nothing more to offer in their profiles than some photos and maybe two sentences ridden with grammar and spelling mistakes. And the few seemingly thoughtful people left over became increasingly aggressive and arrogant.
I suppose the answer to the question what happened is quite simple: With the number of people using the internet increasing drastically, the online world became a mirror of the offline world. Which is why now, the experience of using a dating site is like what you probably get at a random bar. Not that I would know first hand but I have heard/read many stories.
And I bet that just like in the offline world, the nice and thoughtful people will usually rather stay at home than deal with a colossal amount of douchebags.
Personally, realizing this also made me realize that unless there is some change, it would be the end of the line for me dating-wise.
Which is why I even tried to create my own dating site (which I won't mention by name though, since I don't want people thinking I only post this for promotion purposes. Feel free to ask me though if you are interested in it), constructing it in a way that it would deter the douchebags and attract the nice and thoughtful people. But it seems people don't find their way there and there is no way to promote it (even if I had the money, the people I expect to be interested in it don't pay attention to ads...).
And this is where I currently am. Waiting, hoping (that either memberships on my site will pick up or a miracle will happen and more people I could get along with will register on already established sites again). Because for reasons I would have to describe in another post, it's next to impossible for me to meet somebody offline.
InvoluntaryLoner 26-30, M 3 Responses 1 Feb 2, 2013