Acceptance Is a Form of Judgement
I've always thought that accepting and judging were two different concepts. If you accept someone as the they are, you're not judging, right? Our friends have their opinions, our spouses another, even the people we meet on the street. What do we say when we don't agree with those opinions? "I don't agree, but I'm not going to try to change their mind" and sentiments such as those. Well guess what? That's judging. We are judging others for having their own opinions.
Instead of accepting, we need to learn the art of allowing. We don't need to ACCEPT other people's views and opinions. We need to ALLOW them to have them. Allowing holds no judgment. Allowing does not reflect on us. Allowing is more like observing. Observing is the key to living life without judgment.