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Forgive and Forget the wrong..... There is something in many of us that particularly fails to forgive and forget earlier mistakes in life—either our mistakes or the mistakes of others. It is not good. It is not Christian. It stands in terrible opposition to the grandeur and majesty of the Atonement of Christ. To be tied to earlier mistakes is the worst kind of wallowing in the past from which, we in the Gospel,  are called to cease and desist.

That also happens in marriages and other relationships.  When they are deeply hurt or even just deeply stressed, reach farther and farther into the past to fi nd yet a bigger brick to throw through the window “pain” of their marriage. When something is over and done with, when it has been repented of as fully as it can be repented of, when life has moved on as it should and a lot of other wonderfully good things have happened since then, it is not right to go back and open some ancient wound that the Son of God Himself died to heal. Let people repent. Let people grow. Believe that people can change and improve. Is that faith? Yes! Is that hope? Yes! Is that charity? Yes! Above all, it is charity, the pure love of Christ. If something is buried in the past, leave it buried. Don’t keep going back with your little sand pail and beach shovel to dig it up, wave it around, and then throw it at someone, saying, “Hey! Do you remember this? ” Splat! Well, guess what? That is probably going to result in some ugly morsel being dug up

out of your landfi ll with the reply, “Yeah, I remember it. Do you remember this? ” Splat. And soon enough everyone comes out of that exchange dirty and muddy and unhappy and hurt, when what our Father in Heaven pleads for is cleanliness and kindness and happiness and healing. Such dwelling on past lives, including past mistakes, is just not right! It is not the
gospel of Jesus Christ. In some ways it is worse than Lot’s wife because at least she destroyed only herself. In cases of marriage and family, and neighbourhoods, we can end up destroying so many others.

The proviso, of course, is that repentance has to be sincere, but when it is and when honest effort is being made to progress, we are guilty of the greater sin if we keep remembering and recalling and rebashing someone with his or her earlier mistakes—and that someone might be ourselves. We can be so hard on ourselves—often much more so than on others!

Forgive and do that which is sometimes harder than to forgive: forget. And when it comes to mind again, forget it again.   You can remember just enough to avoid repeating the mistake, but then put the rest of it all on the dung heap Paul spoke of to the Philippians. Dismiss the destructive, and keep dismissing it until the beauty of the Atonement of Christ has revealed to you your bright future and the bright future of your family, your friends, and your neighbors. God doesn’t care nearly as much about where you have been as He does about where you are and, with His help, where you are willing to go. That is the thing Lot’s wife didn’t get—and neither did  a host of others in the scriptures.
c8lorraine c8lorraine
5 Responses Jul 18, 2010

It's definitely a daily challenge

Thank you Eyeno.....hugssssssssssssss Lorraine

Thank you Eyeno.....hugssssssssssssss Lorraine

Wonderful June, and you are right.... it does make one feel lighter

I have learned that hanging on to others' mistakes and beating them over and over again over such mistakes only slows one down in out quest of happiness and contentment.<br />
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It is not the easiest thing to do but and to people who are still struggling it may sound like an empty cliche but I have experienced it myself, how light you ended up feeling once you let go of such emotions and turned yourself toward the future.<br />
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It is the Christian thing to do, and even though I didn't want to do it, I <b><i>chose</i></b> to do so - as I believed it to be an act of faith, and in the end I find that I don't regret it at all.