ListenI like to think I understand people but I suppose that's simply my own perception.
I tend to be more of a listener than a talker. That's not to say I can't talk ... I can talk a lot! Usually though I find myself listening. Maybe I just have friends that talk a lot! lol
Much can be revealed by their choice of topics. Their attitudes towards the world at large. Do they see their glass as half empty or half full? Is it full of water or vodka?
You can learn a great deal just be listening. Not only to what is said but what's not said. If you pay attention I think most people reveal far more about themselves than they realize.
I enjoy being an active listener. And then I'll talk ... a lot.