Why Men Cheat And Why They Go To ProstitutesI was watching Anderson a while ago and there were 5 women talking about why men cheat and why men go to prostitutes. A legal prostitute in Nevada, a former "professional mistress", a psychosexual and relashionship therapist and two married women seemed to have right answers to the questions. All women were mature and believed that they knew men very well.
The prostitute believes that women are at least partially to blame for their husbands' cheating, has a good advice for wives who hope to keep their spouses away from prostitutes: "Men want a normal, everyday woman," she said. "Everyone has these callous views of what men and women want in each other, and that's just not true. Be yourself." Not true! It's not just my opinion. A number of mature men told me so, one of them a 60 year old well-educated (PhD) psychologist..
The former "Professional Mistress" said that it's "hypocritical" for people to judge prostitutes for what most people give away for free. "We all prostitute ourselves in some way." Also she said that cheating men get the best out of women. True. With mistresses it's love and loving sex, with prostitutes it's just sex and sometimes "girlfriend experience". And all these women look and do their best for such men.
The Psychosexual and Relationship Therapist, has a hard time understanding their points, explaining to them that most men who visit prostitutes are avoiding their fears of intimacy. Most men? It's just one expert's opinion. My opinion: men are not the same, they have their reasons, some - fear of intimacy.
So, why do men cheat? First of all, men do not know why they feel the way they feel. It's their nature. There are men who have a beautiful woman at home or a girlfriend but still cheat. So, other women assume that those beautiful women are not perfect, not good for their men for some reasons. Could be true, could be not true. A mature man recommended me to see some movies. One movie is about a middle-aged man who fell in love with a very young pretty girl. He was obsessed with her since the day he saw her for the first time. And when he saw her again he asked her out. Soon they became lovers. She was a perfect sex partner to him. However, after a while he lost interest in her. In the movie the man tells the story. He explained that he just wanted to get rid of her and start dating other girls. This is what happens in many marriages. As some men say that behind every (even beautiful) woman there is a man who got tired of doing her.
Another reason is that many men feel deceived when they dated women who looked attractive and when they got married the women stopped wearing make-up and looking sexy. Most men cheat because they need to conquer beautiful women, others just because they lust after women and even unattractive women would do. There are men who "collect" women - the more the better, it makes them feel powerful. I see an average man like a kid to whom the world is like a candy store and attractive women are like candies - he would love to "try" most of them. All men, just like women, are greedy for somethings and get obsessed with somethings.
Now, why do men go to prostitutes? An older man told me that the relationship between a prostitute and the men is honest: she knows what those men want from her and delivers, getting paid for it. Unlike many women who prefer to take it slow and after a while just to be friends or not to have the man around any more. Every man has his reason. Not happy at home, got tired of doing his woman, lonely, because he can do many things with a hooker that most women would not agree to, because the man is older and can not get young girls, but can get young hookers; because all he wants from women is just sex and no relationship or responsibility of any kind; because he's tired of dating that is costly and frustrating, and he would not get sex; because he had his heart broken many times and does not want that any more, but wants sex; because he can not get beautiful girlfriends he turns to beautiful hooker; because he's in love and his love must be pure, and sex to him is "dirty" or animal-like - hookers to him are "dirty"; because prostitutes excite him like no other women; because he feels like a King with hookers, he can have any of them and they all trying to please him. Actually, the latter is not quite true. The men who frequent prostitutues know who is good and who is not, or they just know the website where men review such women with all the intimate details. So, a man can choose a woman, he thinks, would be perfect for him. There are men who just talk to hookers or just want to give a sensual massage to young beautiful girls. They do not even consider this cheating.