I'm Dating A Professional Athelete

I see and know all these girls who dream of being able to meet their favorite athlete and have that fantasy, whirlwind romance but I can say from experience it's not all its cracked up to be! I met my boyfriend before he started playing pro-baseball and we had a wonderful relationship. He was home all the time, we spent holidays together, we rarely had disagreements and I can honestly say it was the best relationship I've ever had. Then this past year he started getting signed with different teams and working his way up and he's been gone all season. We talked about it before he left and even though I was the more skeptical one he assured me we would make it work. As much as I try....IT'S SOOO HARD!!! He's constantly on the road and in different cities, he has appearances with women wanting to meet and get pictures, etc but most of all I think it's just hard because even though we are constantly in contact it feels like he's living a life I'm not a part of. And I will give him credit...he's a good christian guy who doesn't drink at all, he rarely goes out and he goes above and beyond to make me feel loved and included but no matter how many hard he tries I feel like we're leading two separate lives. I love him very much but it definitely makes me appreciate the boring guys with good nine-to-fives... : (
lyndseym2424 lyndseym2424
2 Responses Jul 26, 2010

Hello I also had the chance to date a college football pla<x>yer and just like you I knew him when he was just regular ol Michael. Now I can hardly recognize him because I could cclearly asee that wasn't who I fell in love with in high school. He never even call me and I know there is another girl that's occupying his time. Ifthe little tv time hes getting hnow is making him do that I can't even imagine how hes gonna act when and if he goes pro.

Im starting to understand how you feel. Im not one of those girls who dreamt of being with a pro athlete and I didn't pick my boyfriend because he was an athlete. I was dating him before he played college football. My boyfriend is a college football pla<x>yer and is the captain of his team. He's so focused on making it to the league and I have no doubt that he wont. I am 100% supportive and I want him to follow his dream but it's really hard for me...already. We have been dating for two years, we have grown together and have been through a lot already. More and more everyday he's spending more time with his team, working out practice to the point where we only talk one time a day when it use to be all day before he played college ball. This is tough for me because I go to college two states away (7 hours) so communication is key. Its hard for me to not feel left out and feel like he's cheating on me with football. We love each other and trust each other so much and we plan to get married after graduation but its just so hard for me because I just miss the old days when he was "normal", when our relationship was "normal". There are pros and cons to dating an athlete and when I tell people who my boyfriend is and what he does, they automatically assume that it's an honor and everything is perfect and laid out for me but they have no idea what I have to go through in order to make our relationship work. They have no idea what I sacrifice for our relationship. The hard part about it is that he's not even pro yet and I know that it's only going to amplify when he gets to that point but I'm in it for the long haul so I'm not worried. I'm just here to say that dating someone in this type of atmosphere is tough, it takes a strong person to handle these things, its not all fun and games all the time, it takes work and dedication, as long as your man is willing to work with you and you support him you should be fine but Im just here to say that its not easy like everyone thinks it is.