My Perspective

To me one aspect of humility is the ability to look at ourselves objectively, admitting our errors and the willingness to correct them. Some mistakes cannot be corrected, so a humble well-meaning apology is in order and simply making the effort not to do those things anymore.

 Then there are deeper aspects, when something within ourselves that is dysfunctional is brought to our attention or we see it within ourselves. Admitting that flaw is humility and stepping back to look at how to fix that within ourselves is an even greater sign of humility.

Being humble enough to admit that we do not know everything is very important. Doing so opens our minds to new knowledge and perspectives on life.  When a person can’t admit this, they do not grow intellectually, spiritually, or any other way.

I consider myself to be very humble. I have no problem doing the things above. I hear a lot of people say that they don’t care what others say about them, but I think that is the wrong way to think. It is through listening to those perspectives that we can see ourselves through the eyes of others. Though, we must filter out those things that are only meant to hurt us.

Although, I am humble in many ways, there are some aspects that I have difficulty with. I struggle with admitting weakness. I’ll carry everything on my shoulders to the point that my legs break beneath me. Then everything ends up being a mess, because it was too much for me to handle alone.

Someone recently told me that I look at myself with a magnifying glass that distorts the image sometimes. There is a lot of truth in that. Sometimes I judge myself way too harshly, expecting perfection. When I don’t meet that standard, I’m very hard on myself. I hold myself to standards that are unreasonable.

Those things that I expect from myself, those humble aspects, I don’t expect from others. I guess I just learned a long time ago that we cannot control other people’s actions and thoughts. The only person that I can control is myself, but I end up accepting unacceptable behavior and being a door mat. In a lot of cases, I end up being the only one taking responsibility for actions and mistakes made.

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3 Responses Jul 12, 2012

Well, the good thing about accepting your own responsibility is that you don't have to wake up each day and wonder what lie you told the day before and glance over your shoulder to see what new enemies you've made through denial!!! btw...excellent take on"humility" I completely agree...good post!

Yes humility is one of the better human qualities. As much as they look similar from the outside it and low self esteemed are not related. Though if we are not diligent people will take advantage of our humility for their selfish ends. Being open means being innately vulnerable, however awareness, intelligence, and experience can keep us agile, thus making us a difficult target to hit. The ability to be humble and introspective is a truely a gift we give ourselves, though others may benefit from it indirectly. Such a thoughtful post you have written.

Good words affinity. It's a hard line to judge sometimes in deciding how far is too far to let another push you....The older I get the more I realize I don't like to be pushed much at all.....But I'm not one for pushing others either so maybe I find a little bit of balance with humility in there somewheres. Being human is tricky business....

Aww, you're looking for the you're already better then half way there... :)