Crushed By My Wife Cheating On Me After 9 Years.
I just found out two days ago that my wife who I have been with for 9 years has been cheating on me with a guy she works with for thr past 5 months. We just got married in July and we have a beautiful 18 month old daughter. Im completely devasted. We have had a awsome relationship full of love and happiness. We have has some ups and downs, she comes from a very broken home and has always struggles with depression, anxiety and self worth. We have always worked through her issues and I have always helped her get help when she starts sliding into one of her depressive states. It has never even come close to being this bad. She is completely devasted over this as well. My family is her family, my friends are her friends, and now she has just realized that she has completely alienated herself. Everyone that cares about us is shocked because if you know my wife this is something you couldnt imagine her doing. I had to bring her to the hospital yesterday because she was so depressed and had no one to talk to she was literally going out of her mind. She is completely broken and I know that this person is not the woman that I have loved for the past 9 years. I am so devastated and completely heart broken but I still love her more than anything. Even through all my pain right now, I feel worse for her because I see her pain, and I see how hopeless she feels because of what she has done. I don't know what to do. I don't know if it makes me as crazy as she is if I try to forgive her and travel down the long hard road of being the happy loving couple that we have been for most of our lives. Of course on top of it all I found out a week earlier that I have skin cancer (melanoma). They believe they caught it early so I should be fine, but why would two horrible crushing things like this happen to me in the same week. Im so sad. I know things can always be worse, but its just so hard. Any comments or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for listening.