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Dont Want to Bother People

I don't want to bother people or make people feel obligated to talk to me since I talked to them first. So I wait to see who says "hi" or whatever first that way I'm not being annoying.

mimsy2 mimsy2 26-30, F 10 Responses Sep 1, 2008

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That an awesome story. I really love that.

i'll post it to my blog

i'm shy too<br />
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ego... ego... <br />
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1. there is a mechanism of connection between particles. particles that may theoretically be connected because they suit each other, must come close enough one to other for forces attraction begin to work on them. <br />
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so there is a mechanism between people to try each other if he can connect to you or not. you can't know it until you tried it (or somehow learned his inner construction in other way). <br />
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so it's normal and understandable and accepted to try to connect someone new, you and he understand that you're trying to get known him better to make your opinion on him. <br />
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also it doesn't place you as a desperate looser trying to get an opportunity to cry on someone's shoulder... <br />
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rather as someone who is not lazy to make more connections. and who's not afraid to show himself to others.<br />
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2. if you try to start a conversation, you make someone understand that you consider him as someone worth to talk to. <br />
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i don't think there's much people that become too injured by this. it's really rather comforting their self esteem.

It's not nice to lie, Sunny =P

you would be far from annoying, you are very bright and can talk on a barage of topics and are very kind

Yah, I imagine all of us shy people are just missing out on great friendships and conversations because of being too shy to talk to each other.

I am exactly the same way, but I wish I weren't. Because it seems that the only people who I ever talk to in person are the annoying loud ones who are only talking to me because they are nosy or they want attention. I wish I could meet people easier, but all the quieter ones are probably just like me and don't say anything first so we never talk.<br />
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I have this huge fear of being loud or annoying or saying things that are interpreted wrong. I'm so quite that anyone who has ever finally gotten to know me in the past tell me that they always thought that I was a stuck up snob who didn't like anyone, and that not the case at all, I'm just shy, quiet and fearful or new people. But the people who get to know me see a much different person.

Well, I just hate to bother people. I just never know who likes me or not and I'd hate to be that pesky, annoying person that someone doesn't like. I know I have a few of those in my life sometimes. I just smile and say hello just to be nice, but I really don't like that person very well.

I'm exactly the same, I always worry people don't really want to talk to me, so wait for them to speak first!

That's just how I am. I'm like that offline too, but probably even worse. It's a combination of not wanting to be annoying and being shy.