Family Relationship In Islam

After passing a whole busy and hectic day I returned home from my office , badly tired , crossing the entrance of my home I was thinking what tasks I had to do tomorrow in office . Planning the whole thing in my terribly aching head I pressed the door handle of main door. And I was not even completely entered in home, when my little daughter came running fast to hug me with her cute little arms opened wide. And all of the sudden I forgot whatever I was thinking and bowed down to pick up my daughter in my arms. Meanwhile smiling face of my wife appeared .She took my office bag and files from me, and brought a glass of juice to freshen me, even without my demand. My son was also sitting a side me and telling me that he scored highest in his test today. In all this beauty of my family I just totally forgot what ever tension I had a few minutes before entering my home. How my boss scolded me today, whatever plenty of tasks were assigned to me, whatever tensions and frustration I had, I was totally free of them now. And the reason was MY FAMILY. That is why Islam has paid great importance to family.

Family relations are just one of the great blessings of ALLAH Almighty on us. Which a Muslim is encouraged to enjoy is freely.Family is considered a corner stone of whole society in Islam. Being a complete social institution, when we say FAMILY, by it we mean all relations, husband, wife, children, and parents.

The Prophet (sws) said, “The best of you is the best to his family and I am the best amongst you to my family”Tirmidhi, IbnMaajah.


Imam Shawkaani states in his book Nayl Al-Awtar (6/360):
“This is pointing to the fact that the best people and those most worthy of this description are those who treat their family the best. Surely, the family deserve the most to be happy, to be treated with good manners and kindness, and to be protected from harm and provided with what benefits them. So, if the man fits this description, then he is the best of people: and if, on the other hand, he acts contrary to this, then he is in the realms of evil.
You frequently see people falling into this trap. So you see a man, when he is with his family he has one of the worst characters, he is stingy and mean and shows them little kindness.
However, when he meets others he is gentle, shows good character, joyful and does a lot of good. There is not a shadow of a doubt that this type of person is deprived of success and has deviated from the straight path. We ask Allaah for the wellbeing”

When it comes to Islamic concept of family or what Islam means by building a family, then there are 2 types of major relationships which constitute whole family:

1)      Husband wife relationship

2)      Parent child relationship

Both of those relations carry equal importance although both exist in different but overlapping dimensions. We will discuss both of them one by one.

For husband wife relationship following verse beautifully portrays the right Islamic atmosphere:
“And among his signs is this: He created for you spouses from yourselves that you might find rest in them, and He ordained between you love and mercy.” (30-21)


As an internal organization of a Muslim family, Man is held in charge of the family , especially the matters lying outside the family (e.g. economical , disciplinary issues etc.). Whereas female is responsible for internal matters of a family (e.g. looking after home, bringing up of children etc.). Both have equal but unique responsibilities and position.  Often people confuse this uniqueness and equality of status of woman and man in Islamic system of family, they think man a ranked higher. Its true in some cases like decision power is vested in man but to compensate it, women are ranked higher when she is mother.

“Men are in charge of woman, because Allah has made the one of them to excel the other, and because they spend of their wealth (for supporting them and the family)”.

“And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them according to what is equitable, and men have a degree (of advantage) over them, Allah is Mighty, Wise.”

Holy prophet (saw) said:

“it is only the evil one who abuses them (women) and the honored one is he who honors them”

Each of the husband and wife has been assigned his/her responsibilities and both are liable to judgment equally if any one fails to fulfill them. Both have equal rights on each other.

For a peaceful atmosphere of family, mutual understanding and love of both partners is very crucial. As marriage is not just a temporary union of two people but it is meant for entire span of life. Both must understand problems and needs of each other.
Parent child relationship


When it comes to parent child relationship, at first Islam assigns duty to parents, for proper and well treatment of children. There grooming, education, food, clothing and everything. It orders:
“Don’t kill your children for fear of poverty; it is We who provide sustenance for them and you; verily killing them is a most heinous crime!” (Al-Isra’: 31)

And then it orders children too , to obey and care for parents. Even a bad breath against our parents has to be controlled when we are in anger.

“Your Lord has decreed that you worship non but Him, and that (you show) kindness to parents. Should one or both of them attain to old age with you, Say not “Fie” unto them nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word. And lower unto them the wing of submission through mercy and say: My Lord! Have mercy on them both as they did care for me when I was little. Your Lord is best aware of what is in yourselves. If you are righteous, then Lo! He was ever forgiving unto those who turn unto Him” (17: 23-25).

And similarly the Noble Qur-an refers to parent child relationship is in chapter 46 called Al Ahqaf where Allah says:

And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind toward his parents.  His mother bears him with hardship and delivers him with hardship. His bearing and weaning are thirty months, till when he attains full strength and reaches forty years, he says: ‘My Lord! Arouse me that I may give thanks for the favor where with you have favored my parents, and I may do right acceptable unto you. I have turned unto you repentant and Lo! I am one of the Muslims.

ALLAH subhanahuwatala loved this relationship of child with his parents so much that adua  Is added to the tashahhud in prayer thus we end our prayer saying these words , 5 times a day in every 2 rakaat:


When it comes to parent child relationship, at first Islam assigns duty to parents, for proper and well treatment of children. There grooming, education, food, clothing and everything. It orders:
“Don’t kill your children for fear of poverty; it is We who provide sustenance for them and you; verily killing them is a most heinous crime!” (Al-Isra’: 31)

And then it orders children too , to obey and care for parents. Even a bad breath against our parents has to be controlled when we are in anger.

“Your Lord has decreed that you worship non but Him, and that (you show) kindness to parents. Should one or both of them attain to old age with you, Say not “Fie” unto them nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word. And lower unto them the wing of submission through mercy and say: My Lord! Have mercy on them both as they did care for me when I was little. Your Lord is best aware of what is in yourselves. If you are righteous, then Lo! He was ever forgiving unto those who turn unto Him” (17: 23-25).

And similarly the Noble Qur-an refers to parent child relationship is in chapter 46 called Al Ahqaf where Allah says:

And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and kind toward his parents.  His mother bears him with hardship and delivers him with hardship. His bearing and weaning are thirty months, till when he attains full strength and reaches forty years, he says: ‘My Lord! Arouse me that I may give thanks for the favor where with you have favored my parents, and I may do right acceptable unto you. I have turned unto you repentant and Lo! I am one of the Muslims.



ALLAH subhanahuwatala loved this relationship of child with his parents so much that adua  Is added to the tashahhud in prayer thus we end our prayer saying these words , 5 times a day in every 2 rakaat::)
Source:AlQUranclasses

moonii moonii
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1 Response Jan 9, 2013

Ma sha Allah such a nice story sister.