Confidence Is Attractive

I have found that the more mature you get, the less outward appearances of others matters to you. What matters to me is confidence. Confidence is what makes a person attractive. My ex was a very good looking guy, but he was so insecure with himself that he overcompensated with a cocky attitude, which over time became less and less attractive to me. I could see deep down, glimpses of what a scared little boy he was...although he never admitted it to me. I wanted to help him find that person and love that person, but I couldn't. The sad truth is that you can't help someone who isn't willing. I am still working hard to overcome the heartache caused by our break up, but I now know what I am really looking for. I want to find someone who is secure with themselves, and has true confidence in who they are...whether they are goofy, shy, nerdy...it doesn't matter to me. True confidence is the ability to recognise that you are good enough without having to gloat about what you are good at. You don't need other people to acknowledge your strengths, because you realize what you are capable of, and you don't need the appoval of others. That is attractive to me. I just hope one day I can find that.

TwistedVixen TwistedVixen
26-30, F
Feb 28, 2010