Waited 9 Years For A Wedding, Hopefully Not Another 9 Years For A Baby
I was married this past June to my boyfriend of 9 years.
He was resistant to marriage when we first were dating and over numerous fights which involved me moving away to another city for a year and some counseling regarding the fear of marriage on his part, we finally got married. Before the wedding, he knew of my deep need to have my own family. I believe that when he asked me to marry him that he also wanted to start a family with me.
Fast forward to almost 5 months into our marriage. I bring up the subject of starting a family. Yes, I know it's pretty early but we've been together for nine years. In addition, I'm creeping on on 36 (he's currently 41) and dealing with with uterine fibroids which decrease my chances of having children.
This discussion takes my husband by surprise. After some talking he says that he is neither for or against starting a family but he's "not there yet." My fear is that it will take him several years to warm up to starting a family ("Hello biological clock!") and he doesn't feel that our marriage is in danger if he ultimately decides that having children is not for him.
I am starting to worry that maybe I stepped into this marriage without a through discussion of our life goals, mine ultimately is having a family.