Not On The Same Page....agian

i am 25 going on 26 and my husband is the same. when we first met i knew i wanted to be with him forever, we have been together now for 6yrs now, 2 of which i was in school and we agreed that when i was done with school we would discuss the child thing. im ready for a child now, just one thats all. i know im ready because everything in my body is clicking and sending the same message, i can feel it and hear the clock tick tick ticking. i wish guys could so that they could understand it and know what it feels like. they just think they have all the time in the world and they do but i am not wanting to have a child in my 30's and everyday is an argument about it that he always ends with a new reason as to why we cant have a child, money, life style, housing, location, etc... im tired of it i know that there is never a perfect time to have a child and i know that you could have all the money in the world and still not have a enough for a child. today are argument essclated to the point of him telling me we will never have kids because he is not and never will be ready for them. how would he know until it happends? its so hard to hear words like that. i broke down and cried and i am litteraly heart broken. i cant fathum speaking to him now with out wanting to yell at him and make matters worse and unfourntnatley i think this will be the straw that breaks the camels back which is terrible becasue i really do love him and want to have a life and family with him. but with him thinking of new excuess and random thoughts i dont think i can be. i dont want to wait til im 30 becasue i know that when we reach that point he will change his mind agian. i have tried to ease his mind of the fear of children, becasue i have been around them all my life and know how and what to do. i have bought books and had him talk to friends who have kids. but you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink. im stuck and heartbroken, help.

lilnaenae lilnaenae
26-30, F
2 Responses Mar 14, 2010

I feel exactly the same but I'm 20, I feel used I feel like I'm giving him what he wants but not getting what I want, you need to do what is best he's being selfish so why don't you? X

I am in the same boat. You need to sit down and discuss how important it is to you and tell him how you feel inside surely he can understand that. Explain to him that your worried about your fertility later on in life and it would be best to have a baby before your 30. It's a decision for both of you to need to ask him why he reacts this way and why he doesn't want to yet?<br />
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It's really important don't just get off the pill and help yourself it decietful to your partner.