Health Class

Okay, so I do admit, at 15 I want a baby, but I know I'm not ready financially. But in health the other day we were talking about a woman's minstrel cycle and how it starts in the teen years because that's when they're body is ready for a child.  Then I got to thinking, if a woman (and the man she wants a baby with) is mentally ready for a child at that age, then why don't the parents support her and society let her be?  I mean, if someone gets a job and can pay a parent to watch the child during school then why not?

Again, I'm just curious as to your input, I'm not saying that I'm pregnant or that I'm planning for a child in the very near future because I don't have the financial stability nor my parents support.  Thanks for reading :)
DarkCelestriaRose DarkCelestriaRose
18-21, F
4 Responses Jan 12, 2013

I think its because since you are still young you should focus on school and not on kids,and they scream in the middle of the night.What if the guy isn't the one.

Yeah I know kids do that all too well. And you would know if the guy is the one or not. Not by the fact that he says he will be, but by his other actions. How responsible he is, how he's raised, who he hangs out with, and how he treats you. There's probably more that I just can't think of right now.

oh good point

Yeah, you kinda just need to know what you're looking for and what you want in a man and see if he has those same values (which a lot of guys nowadays seem to have). If teen pregnancy wasn't such a huge deal amongst people then it probably wouldn't be so hard for teen mothers and fathers to continue their education.

oh im not good at seeing what a guy is like....

Well it takes time. It took me 5 years to finally figure out that my mate was exactly what I was looking for. You just need to know them long enough for both you and them to see both your good sides and your bad and if you still like each other after all of that, I'm sure you'll both have a long and lasting relationship. But you don't need to know EVERYTHING, some surprises are good, just not that bad surprises


Well what if you don't have a mate...

Honestly, a mate is just the one you love more than anything in the world and you know you belong together, they don't have to be wolf, they could be human, or vamp, even demon or angel. It doesn't matter. If you don't have a mate, you'll surely find one. There's someone out there for everyone.

Thanks because i still haven't found my mate yet.

No problem, and I can't stress enough to take your time with it. Don't rush into anything, make sure you know them, and I honestly don't recommend an online relationship.

OK Thank you

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hundreds teenage girls had kids

Haha it's funny how people say that teens shouldn't have a the 18

In the 1800's by the time someone was 25 they'd probably have grandkids lol

Haha well my dad says I'm not allowed to have kids till I'm sixteen...haha that means I hav two years to go lol

And like you I want a baby...

Yeah, well I wouldn't recommend it in high school, if you don't have your parents support and they won't watch the kid that is. I mean high school is really fun and having a kid will kind of change all of that

Hah I'm homeschooled so it's not that great. And I know how to take care of a baby. And I know most don't recommend it and nowadays if you hav a kid at sixteen you get called a ****

Yeah, just be careful who you choose to have a child with. Not many 16-18 year old guys will stick by you if you do get pregnant

I know. And I will be careful.

Cuz most guys that age think theyre so darn cool

Good. So many guys lie nowadays that it's not even funny :/

Yeah. There is like only one guy I know that would be a good father and husband...

And hopefully he doesn't change

Yeah, it's hard to find in a guy, but when you do, trust me, it probably won't change

Yeah...I think I effed everything up with him tho...

What makes you say that?

I dumped the greatest guy I know...just cuz I was going thru a hard time...he got ofended and hurt even though I couldn't handle the stress of having a boyfriend at the time

Oh I see


It sucks

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Please OH My God do not even think of having a baby at your age. I had do it, married a man, I really did not love, I had distroyed my sons life, because I had sex with his dad and individual who did not have respect for women. I remarried a fireman, thinking he would be a great dad for my son. I thought wrong, he was nothing but a bully to my son. A sick individual. A today with supporting yourself and a child its to expensive. Please do not do this to your parents. Remember they are going to get old and there bodies will not be able to keep up. Look at the whole picture, before doing something like that.

I already said I didn't want to do this yet because I knew I wasn't ready for it. I don't have the financial stability nor do I have the education to get a proper job to provide for the child. I'm sorry you had such a bad experience with men, but I have been thinking about it, I've been thinking about it for so long and about everything bad and/or good that could happen. But I don't plan on having a child until I'm at least mid 20's with a husband of at least 3 years or more.

The only pervs I know are the normal teenage guy type of pervs. And my boyfriend would literally kick their *** if they touched me, they're all scared of him :/

Yeah, he's really not. He's great, better than anyone I could have asked for