I Feel Unwanted...

I'm 19 and I've never had a boyfriend or a guy who legitimately cared for me. It seems like every girl at my college is dating or in a serious relationship and I'm the only one on the outside looking in. It's not that I'm desperate to have someone care for me; I just wish I could have a shoulder to cry on or a hand to hold when I need it. I'm sure I'll find that certain guy eventually. I guess if I waited this long, I can wait that much longer.
leahd65 leahd65
18-21, F
5 Responses Jul 25, 2010

no more waiting with me

Hmmm....Do things you enjoy. Really get into it. And don't try too hard looking for someone. People like it when they see someone enjoying life. And just think, you'll be around other people just enjoying themselves. It sounds like a great beginning. Maybe some magic will happen in that situation.

The biggest thing I see with most people is their body language isn't inviting. They sit all curled up with no smile. Try sitting up straight with your shoulders back a little and relaxed. Then smile at people. Make eye contact. If a guy sees you might be interested in him he will feel more confident in approaching you. After that it's a matter of keeping the conversation going.<br />
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Hope that helps.

I don't think you are alon I know plenty of girls who arent dating in College and they are beautiful and they got it going. You do not have to rush anything when he comes along it will be so beautiful you'll love it. Just wait a little bit longer. Sometimes when we rush stuff its not as good. Take time to know yourself your worth build confidence. <br />
Then don't believe everyone who is in a relationship is happy some are some are not. Most were probably happier when they were single than now when they are in a relationship. People compromise a lot sometimes too much and they do it for the relationship. But to what extent. Enjoy friendships they are the best!! :)

Ask yourself what the reason might be. Do you feel that people don't like something about you, or is it that you don't reach out and let them know that you are interested?<br />
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If there is something about you that people don't like, see what you can do to address it. <br />
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You have an inviting smile. You may want to experiment using it. <br />
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Guys like it when girls reach out to them, even to just make contact. Chances are that the guys you'd like are just as shy as you are (though opposites may attract, similarities will be more stable over time). Ask them to clarify a topic the professor just discussed or how they felt about the homework assignment or comment about something you share ("I see that you are wearing a "..." t-shirt. I love that group, also."). <br />
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I understand that girls are taught to passively wait for guys to make the first move, yet it is just as awkward for the guys as the girls. No one likes to be rejected. Realize that you are just starting a conversation, not inviting him home to meet your mother.<br />
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One thing you'll discover when you do have a relationship is that it feels very good to know that someone is interested in you. Just as you'll enjoy feeling desired by a partner, the guy enjoys that feeling just as much.<br />
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Realize that, though most guys are turned off by an aggressive woman, they do appreciate an assertive one. Guys are lousy mind readers. At least give them some hints.<br />
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Don't be afraid to smile. It is the quickest and easiest way to open doors.<br />
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Best wishes