Too Together?I've been trying online dating and haven't been very successful. I've met a few guys--maybe 2 or 3--that I was kind of interested in, but never get second dates with them. I worry that maybe I come off badly in dates. I'm very introverted and a little shy, so often in social encounters I feel like I go into "professional mode" and become business-like. People often describe me as serious, intense, independent, and self-possessed. Could that be scaring guys off? Maybe I don't come across as "feminine" enough?
Should I learn to show more vulnerability? I'm not asking if I should change who I am, but I think perhaps I need to somehow seem more human to the men I'm meeting.
In truth, I'd really like to find a man who would be my best friend and then work from there. But it's just confusing. I don't know how to do that on a dating website, and I don't meet many men in my everyday life, so a chance encounter seems unlikely.