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Can't Get Over My Ex

My ex and I are still extremely close friends. I see him practically every day. We broke up months ago, and he is very very wrong for me. Somehow, though, I find myself putting on an act with him where I pretend to be happy for him when he's finding new girls. He just had sex with this girl that he barely knows and I got to hear all about it and all the other girls he has crushes on (yay.) I miss the way things used to be before he got out of control... or maybe his "control" during the time when I fell for him was just an act to get me to like him? Whatever it was, it worked. And I miss him. The way he used to be, that is.



So, why I want a boyfriend: I want to get over him. I want him to be my friend but I want someone who genuinely is the person I thought that he was. My problem is that this "person" is too perfect to exist... and nobody is interested in me anyway.
scg2006 scg2006 19-21, F 19 Responses Dec 17, 2006

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Most guys tend to keep a certain side of their personalities hidden from their girlfriend, the fact that you broke up is the main reason that attracts you to him, the fact that he is now honest to you and that you know him for who he really is what makes you attracted to him.<br />
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My opinion is to try and take some time off, that the only way this would really work, look for other activities to do, sign up for some yoga classes, go to the gym or get a hobby. Remember one thing though, reactions of people towards you is a reflection of your reaction towards them, be yourself and you will find someone.<br />
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Good luck scg2006.

I just got out of relationship with my girlfriend. I just want a girlfriend that is honest and nice not like really nice just nice and cool

I just got out of relationship with my girlfriend. I just want a girlfriend that is honest and nice not like really nice just nice and cool

Wow sounds like me. I just got out of a relationship. All I want is to hold her. She just didn't want a relationship right now. All i want to do is love her but she just wants friendship from me. Its so hard to be a friend when ur heart is aching for more....if you ever want to talk about it i love to listen...but don't ever think no one is interested. I already am ur words are sweet and sad but they touched my heart

EW, drop him as a friend. He is not supposed to be your friend!

Yeah thats tough. I was in a similar situation. I only put up with it because I really liked her, and even though it hurt me to hear about her having sex, I felt some kind of weird connection.<br />
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Then I wasted 12 years with a woman that never wanted to talk about being serious. I finally ended it...and now POW I'm 40, a single father, and nobody wants that ****. I'm good looking, have no debt, drive a nice car, make good money, witty, charming, artistic...and as soon as a girl finds out I have a 14 year old living with me, they never call back.<br />
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"I just want a nice guy that will make me laugh and is honest". Sure, girls are falling all over Gilbert Gottfreid, arent they?

I saw your message regarding you wanting your Ex back!! My name is Prophetess Talya Garu.... I cast many kinds of spells.. Love spells, Money spells, Career spells, banishing spells and money. Please kindly reply if you need my service,here is my e-mail: prpht117@gmail.com<br />
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Peace Be Unto you.

I am still in love with my high school sweetheart. He broke my heart and basically changed my life. When we broke up I had just turned 19, Believe it or not I am 61 now and I still think of him. I have been married had a child, divorced, I have had many boyfriends and lovers but no one has ever touched my heart like him. I think if he asked me I would marry him tomorrow. <br />
Get on with your life. Obviously he has moved on with his life. Dont be 61 and still pine over someting that is long gone.

i am sitll in with love my high school sweetheart.he broke my heat and basicaly changed my life. when we brokeup i had just turned 17,beilve it or not iam 61 now and i still think of him. have been maried had a child , divorced, i have had many boyfriends and lovers but no one has ever touched my heart like him. i think if he asked me i would marry him tomorrow. get on with your life. ovbiusly he has moved on with his life.dont be 61 and still pine over someting that is long gone...

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Peace Be Unto you.

reading with interest the story and i see the problem, i sympathise and wish you the best. I too want a boyfriend im english mature and very very horny im ex royal navy and very masculine luckily very well endowed so if there are any guys out there wanting a very genuine fun time then contact me asap and perhaps we can make 2010 a fantastic horny year Patrick soulsender1@googlemail.com<br />
hope to hear from you quickly regards

O hun, I can't imagine how much that sucks...keep hangin in there, he's not worth all your pain!

Hi Everyone,<br />
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The way to get over a boyfriend, especially one who you actually DON'T want to see any more, is to enjoy your life.<br />
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Get passionate about something, pick up a hobby that interests you, see your OTHER friends and tell your ex that you are quite happy to be friends with him but that you would like him to stop sharing his conquests and desires with you.<br />
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Enjoy your life and fairly soon you'll forget you were pining for this person who was bad for you.<br />
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Enjoy your life and you will find like-minded people who are attracted by your zest for life and happiness.<br />
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I hope this helps.

wow...every comment describes me...we act like we are over each other...yeah right!, but i don't know if he would be worth getting back with, but there's one one like him out there though!...ugh!

Same with me i guess im just searching for someone who used to be like him but there isnt a guy like that anywhere

Same with me i guess im just searching for someone who used to be like him but there isnt a guy like that anywhere

Everyone is interested you,jbhmmm

im not over him and he is not over me we act like we are over each other but we dont tell no one we are thinking adout getting back together

I don't have a lot of soothing things to say, only I hear you and want you to know that someone out there is rooting for you...to be happy. Big hugs to you, okay?

I know where you are coming from. I had a boyfriend and when he broke up with me we kept on being friends. We are now best friends, and i hear about how he likes other girls and how he grouped this other girl (not as bad as sex, but still) and I always act like I am happy. Isn't that my job as a friend? But the thing is I am not over him...and I am with you in thinking that if I got a boyfriend, maybe I'd get over him. Good luck, girl...you'll find the right guy. I hope that turns out true for all of us ladies out there! <br />
love yas...