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Desperatly Want to Appear Not Desperate
A personal story in the experience: I Want a Boyfriend
Jul 17th, 2007
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'm totally ashamed about it too. All my life I've had friends who complain all the time about how awful their lives are because they are single. I've never felt quite that way, because I have very close friends who are fun when they're not whiny, and usually that's enough. But lately I've been feeling those weird little pangs in my stomach saying "Why are you alone? Why are you alone? You're ugly aren't you. Stop feeding me doritos!"Unfortunately my low self esteem keeps me from making even the slightest first move, so I just sort of mope around, and then get angry and myself for moping over not having a boyfriend, then moping more for getting angry at myself. It's a terrible cycle. Oh well.
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  | Posted Jul 17th, 2007 at 10:42PM Although I am beginning to doubt in this "coming along" business. Will a man actually just breeze by? I feel like I should be out looking, but then I feel silly. And I wouldn't even begin to know where to look.   |
 | Posted Jul 17th, 2007 at 10:48PM One of these days, someone is going to write a genuine, useful and intelligent guide to how Manage A Boyfriend. I'd write one for you, but I dunno anything about it :P I have found a really good resource on how to manage women, if you ever want to find out about how men go about it. +2 nods |
 | Posted Jul 19th, 2007 at 8:54AM i hate the 'stop feeding me' voice its got a point but i cant so i wish it would shut up. i feel for you on that and on the i'm lonely but dont think i should feel so bad about it part..ahh life sucks |
 | Posted May 31st, 2008 at 8:42AM haha very funny...i think my stomach says..helen if you stopped feeding me french fries i could show you the abs underneath the fat. lol. yah i totally feel like letting him come to me..i looked all my higschool life..then college...whats next? 40 yearold life..lots of girls go through the cycle.. +2 nods |
 Feeling frustrated | Posted Jul 7th, 2008 at 10:25PM i can relate.ive known plenty of men and had plenty fo sex in the past but none of them was a real boyfriend,not by my definition of the word.i dont quite understand why its been so difficult for me to obtain this either.i know people who are no smarter,no more attractive,no more anything than me yet they never seem to have the trouble that ive had in finding and maintaining a relationship.thats just not fair! +2 nods |
 | Posted Aug 16th, 2008 at 1:53AM First thing you need to do is work on the self esteem issues. Stop worrying about what is wrong with you. Cause there is nothing wrong other than the fact you keep worrying about whats wrong with you. Life is short take chances. What is the worst that can happen if you try to make the first move? So you like a guy and make a move he is gonna go with it or run the other way cause you weirded him out. If that latter happens then OH well. You have to accept that people come and people go its part of life. Yea I know it sucks but its life. Best advice ever "take risks, live without regret" Hope this helps. +3 nods |
 | Posted Oct 5th, 2008 at 1:52AM Just a small town girl... livin' in a lonely wooorld... ...point is, Don't stop believing Man, I hate that in this world there are men and women that are just separated from each other and we live in misery when we could be having the time of our lives. Well, here's hoping that we all overcome our shyness, insecurity, and whatever else is impeding our happiness. |
 | Posted Oct 6th, 2008 at 4:57PM Woah.. I can totally relate to how you feel! I have never felt the need for a boyfriend..i mean, of course i've felt that it would be nice to have one..only i was perfectly ok with being single, especially since i have a bunch of good guy friends. but now, i suddenly feel quite lonely! maybe it's because i haven't seen my dad in a while..and i'm subconciously missing a strong male presence in my life? hmm. anyways, i like one of my best guy friends right now, and i have a feeling he likes me too..so..perhaps i'll try to get rid of this loneliness, and persue him. :) and..confidence is key! build some up, and u'll have no problem going after guys!! (i know that's easier said than done..but..u can do it!) lol +2 nods |
 | Posted Feb 3rd, 2009 at 6:06PM "Manage A Boyfriend" ... There's something kind of unpleasant about the word "manage" in this context. |
 | Posted Feb 12th, 2009 at 4:25PM So, all single people are single because they are ugly? That logic is simply ridiculous---your life doesn't have to be horrible just because a significant other is absent; Take the opportunity to get to know yourself better and have fun living a single life. Definitely, improve your self esteem, nobody deserves someone who thinks lowly of themselves, in order to enter into a healthy relationship one must be happy with themselves first. |
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