Need Some Serious Advice

I am so sorry, oh dear, yes you are right, my comment was innapropriate and very impolite, very painful for me also to read now. Please forgive me. It is not for me to judge anybody or anything, not for this I am here, am really really sorry! I have attached my own pain to it, mea culpa! Shall I delete my comment or may I leave it on as a lesson of shame for me to try to never do such mistakes again?

Wow. I wasn't expecting that. I did ask for advice though. I didn't realize that I came off as being a selfish person. But I guess that is who I have became. I have always done for everyone else. I have always been the peace maker in our family. My husband is not a mad man, not an abuser, or anything like that. He has been a good provider, good father. But the love (from my heart) is no longer there. I feel nothing when he kisses me or holds me. In fact, intimacy on my part is a no no. I don't want any intimacy with him any more. I cringe whenever he comes around me.

Oh dear, this is screaming me all over. Money? Lawyer? Is that all you can think when on the verge of throwing a man into the depressing box, one who lived with you under the same roof for so long? No more inlove? Lol, such blind love that is for 15 years old, they can believe and swear to be forever inlove. True love is such that you see the dark spots and you learn to accept understand and forgive them...People are free to choice how to live their lives as they wish but they will learn that what comes around goes around... We should try everything to avoid hurting others because sooner or later we will suffer the consequences. It is painful to read this. If by me I would do all that stays in my power to be sure he would suffer the least from my absence, like hiring a cleaning lady to cook also, hook him up on something he always liked to do but never found the time, and I would make time check on him to be sure he is ok sound and tries to be happy. You had three years to prepare your going, if haven't done such things yet keep near by a few months more and prepare him, don't break it sudden or it may kill him. This is only my opinion as honest as it can be I give it because you asked, but of course I may be wrong, we all may have different ways , so do only what your heart tells you.

He has no lawyer, in fact, he has no idea that I am wanting to file for divorce. He does know that I have not been happy, but as far as the divorce goes, he doesnt know that I am want to go this far.

If your husband has a lawyer you should too.

There will be drama either way....In the end it will better just to go ahead and get it over with.

I stayed up all night last night thinking about my decision. Would I be a coward if I were to leave a goodbye letter? I am just trying to avoid all the drama that I can.

The short answer is I don't know - but for me, I'd settle and move on. I like how courageous you are.