Okay, so me and my husband have been together since 1988, married in 2006. Have a business together. I am 43, he is 62. I am considering leaving him and have been for about 3 years now. I'm just not sure where to start. I love him, but I am not in love with him. I know that when I tell him that I am leaving, the sh** will hit the fan. I have hurt him in the past, and have apologized over and over again, but it doesn't seem to be enough. I know that if I sign the business over to him, he won't cause me to much drama. I guess what I am asking, is this: should I try to settle something with him without a lawyer or should I get a lawyer before I try to make a deal with him?