My Lover, My Best FriendI have always believed that one of the best foundations of love is friendship. It would be good to get to know each other first as friends and in the process love him/her and eventually be in love. This way, there is no pressure to always put your best foot forward and pretend to be whom you are not. There will be no need to walk on egg shells and be so careful as not to turn off or displease the other. You can act as naturally as you can without having to worry if how you are acting is acceptable to the other. At this point, there will be no expectations and commitments as of yet which usually give rise to frustrations and disappointments. If you go past this stage and still not get turned off by what you have discovered about the other person, then you are ready to take it to the next level.
Assuming the basic ingredients are there of having trust and being in love, it would be nice to be with someone whom you can spend time with and do a lot of things together, other than enjoy good sex. ;) This is because when you are old and grey and it would be physically impossible to have sex anymore, it would be good to still have something to share with each other and still delight in each other’s company. It would be comforting to be with someone with whom you can share good conversation about anything and everything under the sun. It would be reassuring to be able to share your thoughts and feelings without fear or worry of being judged and ridiculed. Sometimes, you don’t even need to talk. Just being with each other inside a room and enjoying each other’s quiet presence will be an acceptable way to spend an afternoon or evening. There would be no pressure to forcibly like the other person’s interests or hobbies. However, you will be open to be exposed to these activities and also be given the freedom to decide if you want to engage in it or not. You will not be expected to spend all your time together because you acknowledge that each one of you are unique individuals with their own interests. And you will respect the fact that even though you are a couple you occasionally need your personal time and space. In case of any troubles or problems, he or she will be the first person you will have in mind to turn to because you know he/she loves you and will accept you for what you are no matter what happens.
What a wonderful relationship it would have been to have my lover be my best friend rolled into one. :)