Is That Pathetic?!

I should just learn to stand on my own two feet. I keep trying but keep falling too.

Stop being so bloody vulnerable.

I can't deal with the pain.

lostbird lostbird
51-55, F
17 Responses Feb 12, 2009

No matter the subject; life, love, work etc etc everything has a learning curve that one must take. Of course you will fall, we all do.<br />
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We all reach for GOALS...but sometimes forget that the JOURNEY is as, or more, important.<br />
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So you hit a few bump...ok...shake off the dust....stand tall and continue to progress...you will make it!<br />
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If you stay on the ground...you will be certain to go nowhere!

Thanks gnd. Actually my main problem at the moment is gathering the strength I need to extricate myself from all this muddle!<br />
Today is a better day : )

I hope one bad experience does not ruin it for the rest of us. You can and will find a deserving man who will love and appreciate all that you are. You are in a healing state, and it will be a while but you will get there.

Well I've got me thermals on ~ it's been a bit icy round these parts lately. Now how do I ride them?!

Yes Bird, it's time to ride the thermal and soar.....

Yes I think I'm going to need more help than I thought dealing with that. Life has turned out very differently from how I imagined! Thanks Nyxie!

There is a lot to be said for looking forward to a brighter future without beating yourself up over the past. It's done, you can't change it, so moving forward and having control over how that will proceed would seem like a good way to go. (((hugs))

Awww bless you lilt, you make me feel all warm and fuzzy!

You deserve it alright, Bird.

Thank you....that's just it! Without wallowing in self -pity here, I sometimes wonder whether I DO deserve it, after all I'm not entirely innocent!

Thanks ladee! mwah back at you!

LOL!

Oh I have found such a man alright.....but he is too far away and neither of us are free. My own husband has frequently told me he doesn't understand me!<br />
mamma570 that made me smile indeed......right now nothing would make me happier! ;-)

Old soldier is right with that one. I have learned that all women must learn to stand on their own two feet and not always count on someone to take care of them. be strong and selective with the person that you are with. There is also more to a man then his looks. Ask questions and get to know them. Then decide! If you see something that gives you a red flag that should tell you something. I always say go for the one that may not be the best looking but has the best heart. Looks will fade but their heart will never change. Best of luck and you will find that happiness you are looking for.

I am a man so thats where I will speak from. If you are finding men who don't understand you, perhaps you are looking in the wrong places. My theory of life is that you can't be bashful when it comes to your happiness. Figure out what you want in a man. If you see one who meets your criteria, don't sit there waiting for him to come to you. <br />
Be polite; walk over to him and say something like, "I saw you sitting here, my name is _____ and I would like to talk to you. Do you mind if I sit down? " <br />
Listen to him first (men are fickle macho beasts who think they come first).<br />
If you like what you hear, wait for him to ask you out. <br />
If he doesn't, there is nothing in the rules that says you can't ask him out.<br />
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Oh - you will be called forward, etc. etc. but in the long run you will find someone who loves you just for you. You will be happy.<br />
Happiness takes work and it takes the guts to walk up to someone you think you might like and talk.<br />
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Good luck. Be happy, don't worry - that is an order from an old soldier.

can i try to make you smile?<br />
I'm not usually in favour of sexist jokes, but this one made me smile and I dont think it's that offensive...<br />
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A couple are lying in bed and the man turns to the woman and says 'I'm about to make you the happiest woman in the world."<br />
The woman says......<br />
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"I'll miss you"<br />
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Chin up lostbird- you are stronger than you think ;0)

Not so much as being hard on myself, more that I need to be able to deal with it better.<br />
I remember being a happy little girl. I would like to get back to that, or near as damn it.