Sometimes I Pretend

Sometimes I like to pretend that maybe he might feel the same way. But then, he'll bring up some other girl, and then my pretenses shatter. I smile and act as though I'm fine just being the best friend, and I help him through his problems, even his relationships. He keeps saying there's no-one out there for him, and that nobody likes him. He knows how I feel. I think he forgets sometimes though. He forgets how easy it is to break my heart over and over again, everytime he mentions another girl he's 'crazy' about.

What am I supposed to do? I love being a friend to him. I love that he tells me things he's never told anyone else, and he trusts me. But that's all. He doesn't love me like I love him, and he never will.

BBusted BBusted
18-21, F
5 Responses Feb 12, 2010

I used to feel this way about a girl I know, two actually. Eventually I learned that it was best to just be friends with them, and those two are now some of my best friends. And like Jonnn said, it probably would have never worked out, and there would have been bad feelings and -2 really good friends.

Thanks for the advice :) <br />
I completely agree with you, it is pointless looking for love right now. I don't want a boyfriend bad enough that I'm going to start looking for one. I like venting on here about my feelings though :) It makes me feel better. And I have told him how I feel, and he kindly said that he didn't feel the same way, but we're still really close friends because I made sure he didn't think he'd hurt my feelings. I'd rather be a really great friend to him than nothing at all :)

I somewhat agree with strikerfreeze. However I would not even go looking for love. Let it come to you. At our age relationships are almost pointless. How many people do you know that are married and dated in high school? Not that many. Dont waste time, there is billions of guys in the world and at least one of them will love you. Ive been in relationships and Ive been in your situation and its all just a mess. Its best to avoid the whole thing, espeacially a friend. If you start dating and then something happens and you break up, not only will you lose a boyfriend, but you'll lose a good friend.

Well, he's my best friend, so I don't want to loose him in anyway. I guess anything I'm feeling isn't as important to me as making him happy by being his friend. Cause I know he needs me, but just not in the way I wish aha <br />
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And thanks :) I really appreciate it :D

Thanks :) I know what you mean, that's what I'm trying to do. It's just difficult when I spend so much time being around him. I guess I'll move on eventually :) <br />
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Thanks for the advice