How Does a Woman's Mind Work ?
Here is a perfect scenario.
We (average married couple) are both good looking for our age (40). Attraction from others has never been an issue with either of us. We are lucky we have always been considered very attractive and in great shape. We had some friends that started swinging a few years back and I must admit it did NOT work out well for them. He would tell me some of their adventures and of course I was envious. It is only natural to listen in envy to stories about him and his wife inviting other men and women into their bed. Unfortunetely it all ended (the marriage) when she started cheating (behind her husbands back) on him with one of their boy toys.
Anyway this was a few years back and my wife and I kind of sat on the side lines cautiously and watched to see what came of it. Well with the outcome of divorce it did not seem very likely we would be giving it a shot any time soon. Although I was disapointted I accepted her decision to decline any possibility of this adventure happening to us. Then there was this one night when we had a few drinks and were both very turned on and she whispered in my ear "Tell me one of your erotic stories". I have a very erotic mind and she often gets more and more excited during sex if I tell her tales of *********, foursomes, etc. Well this time she totally let loose and as I told my story she played along with it saying things like "Oh god I wish he (the other man) was really here", " thinking of having four hands on my body gets me so wet", then just before she started to climax she screamed out " would you let him **** me, Would let the other man **** me". I played along 100% telling her to pretend I was the another man ******* her now. She came like never before, I mean a full blown, head to toe ****** that was just short of a heart attack.
Feeling like our fantasy really helped drive our sex life to another level I asked her what she thought about the possibility of making it a reality. Which I was sharply met with a NO, NEVER! I asked her why and she refused a real explanation she just continued to tell me what I already knew about friends getting divorced. Again I just backed off and figured maybe she needs time to think about it. It was obvious the mental idea of it is a turn on to both of us but she seems to make it a point to SHUT ME DOWN anytime I enquire about it. so I put the idea back to rest.
Again blast ahead in time, We really have a great sex life and one of our favorite things is for me to tie her up and perform oral and various different types of foreplay on her. She loves being "not in control" when she is turned on. Well after over an hour of foreplay and her having multiple ******* I had her tied to our bed posts, She was covered in sweat and dripping wet. I slid inside her and started to **** her. I know her body well and know what I need to do for her to have a great ****** with intercourse. As I was ******* her again she asked me to tell her a scenario of a *********. It was hard for me to say no considering my very sexy wife was tied to our bed, soaking wet and wanted to *** as much as I did. But I did get aggrevated by her (it is okay as long as I initiate it) attitude. But how can a man not want to give a woman everything she needs in a moment like this? I took one of the silk scarfs off the bed. This is what I tied her up with. and bl
Next morning, I say to her, That was awesome last night. She shoots me a stare and say "you made me sore". I say "it wasn;t me it was him" she flips out, No it wasn't it was you, yu and all YOUR fanatsies,,, blah blah blah.
Okay sorry to be so winded here. Flash forward to last night. We are laying in bed, It has been a few days since we had any fun. I pull up beside her and start to caress her *** and breast. I kiss her neck and say "want to hear a fantasy tonight?" She flips out again and says "can't it just be about you and ME !!!!!
Okay so I guess my point here is do any of you guys feel this way as well. Like it is okay when it is her decision to fantasize, experiment, explore but when you approuch the subject you are treated like some sick perverted husband ?
Would love to hear from some of you people on this topic.