My wife and I seem to be miles apart on this subject and I curious to hear from others who have either;
a) broached the subject and enjoy this type of sexual play, your experiences, how you got started and what barriers (if any) you as a couple had to overcome
b) are wanting to engage in this type of activity but are too afraid to ask.
As for me, this has been a huge fantasy of mine for a long time now. Am I bi or gay....no, since I have no attraction at all to males, but I do understand about and enjoy the feeling of having my prostrate massaged and played with through my own exploration during ************ sessions. My wife does not quite understand this, and seems to be hung up with the notion that me wanting to be anally pleased equates to me jumping the fence to the "other side". I have explained to her that this is not the case, and yet there is still a lot of doubt.
She did agree to wanting to try this a while ago, and when I finally got the courage to go out and buy a strap on, she freaked out. Needless to say I felt an incredible amount of rejection and this is causing a good deal of strain in our relationship. What I don't get is the fact that its okay for me to use toys, vibrators, etc on her so that she can get ultimate pleasure, but when it comes to me....the subject is taboo. Is she being selfish ? Is this a fantasy I need to let go of and forget all together. I'm kind of considering doing this outside of our marriage, but realize that this could be a disaster. Help ! I don't know what to do ?