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I'm also interested in trying this, but have not approached my wife of 25 years yet. With two teens in the house, it's difficult to find time let alone be noisy or vigorous in our sex life. However, I spotted a sale a year or so ago on a harness with black nylon straps, and a "base" to hold the thin purple untextured ***** in. I have not shown it to her, but I have removed the ***** and tried it on her first as a sex toy (it was fair for her, but smaller than the one we normally use for her) and then for me one day during solo sex. It was adequate, in that it was not too large for me.

My question is two fold: First, what is the appeal for a man...that is, what sensations should he expect to receive from a strap-on...and in what position should you two be?
Second, since my wife is somewhat heavyset, I suspect the straps will be close to their extreme limit when tightened down. Any suggestions on where and how it should be positioned on her body?
And finally, how do you suggest that I broach this topic to her? She's not opposed to being adventurous, but more frequently comes down on the conservative white bread/vanilla side of sex... prefers "natural" sex instead of "kink", but when very aroused, will explore. Suggestions?
studfinder studfinder
56-60, M
May 24, 2012