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I Want Out of This Marriage

Am I Being Petty?

By: josadelcielo
Written on July 6th, 2010
Age: 36-40
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  • weareonespirit

    Sounds so much like my life! I finally had enough when he blew up over a look I supposedly gave him & threatened me. That was just one thing to many after nearly 17 years of never being able to please him. I decided that day that I had to get out. I started a list: "What I Won't Miss When I Move out." In five minutes I had filled two pages & had more to come. I hope to be moved in a few weeks - just leave a note on the table & move out while he is at work! I have a crew of friends ready to help! Just waiting for my place to move to be available!



    You need to get out, honey. You just won't believe how much peace and happiness making that decision will bring to you. It won't get better. In fact, he will get worse. I have been living your story for years & every year it is worse.

    Mar 23, 2011
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    • Trying2findmysmile

      wow that really inspires me to want to make a move to get out as well...because just like you said mine has DEFINITELY been getting worse in words I cant explain....

      Hes threatened me, punched holes in doors and threw and punched things and then said it was to keep from hitting me....I still gave him chances WHY I do not know...wait yes at that time I still wanted to believe he was actually going to 100% change..

      But its always the same story mostly....he sees i want to leave, he says and acts like he will change a little then if i take him back he acts 10x worse than before...id really like yalz imput on my story n stories Ive put on here...

      also i wish i had friends like yours who'd be ready to help me move out or something along those lines....thats my main fear is that if i divorce him he will flip out and break my stuff that ive worked so hard to get....(almost every thing in this house ive bought)

      Dec 14, 2011
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  • wildflowercandymojo

    No you are not being petty. You deserve the ability to make a mistake and while not answering your phone can be deemed inappropriate from his stand point. It warranted no more than a comment or a question followed by in the future would you please try to answer. Sounds to me like he is mad about something but I almost guarantee that it isn't the fact that you didn't answer. That's just another reason added to what he was already mad about and as good as any reason to fuss. I think that litle things shouldn't matter and the fact that you worked all day only to come home and work to is wrong. He should be more appreciative of you . But at the same time, you are just as wrong for allowing the silence to continue. You are a strong woman. You could have just as easily confronted him.

    Jan 24, 2011
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  • ARTofROMANCE

    Sounds childish to me. If he is willing to carry such a minor incident to the point of not speaking to you, he needs to grow up. By how you described the situation, I can only get the impression that he is a bit controlling and selfish.

    Men are not mind readers though. Sometimes you have to let them know exactly what your feeling at any given moment when you need acceptance, assistance or understanding.

    I wouldn't chalk this one incident up to wanting to end your marriage. If most of your dealings with your husband end up with dagger stares and berating, then by all means; consider moving on. He obviously isn't happy with A LOT of things in your marriage if he is always so harsh.

    Dont be afraid to let him know how you feel. If you keep it inside, it will eat you up. He will either understand and work to help you make things right or throw the towel in himself. Either way, you will know if he is in the marriage for the long haul or not willing to make it work at all.

    Just my opinion.

    Jul 7, 2010
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    • Trying2findmysmile

      TO me that is how my husband would act, he would ask me why I was so hot and sweaty and to that I say...take him to an area away from your kids and tell him what is on your mind regardless if you argue or not that way you don't end up taking your frustrations out on your babies or others who dont deserve to be blown up on. If he won't listen and just continues to act the same way I would say ...its up to you

      Do you want your CHILDREN to see this and believe that this is how a woman should be treated? Think about it that way...do you really want to constantly have your boys subjected to his pettiness so that they can grow up and treat their perspective partners with the same disdain and disrespect he's treating you? You just dont need or deserve that stress...

      Also everyone please check out my story on my profile I would love your thoughts. Thanks.

      Dec 14, 2011
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