My Husband Won't

I know marraige is hard. My husband and I were raised totally different which makes it hard for him to understand me. When I had our second child I went through postpartum when I told him I had to get on meds, he looked at me like I was weak. After many hardships this past year and a half I had to get on anti-depressants again but this time I did not tell him. Besides all that, we've have had our problems also, now he and I are going to couseling which gets heated at times but they are helping him to understand what he couldn't even after 10 yrs of marraige. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here. Also I know it may sound silly but the book, "Men are from Mars women are from Venus", is actually a very informative book. Good Luck :)

thanks wanderingbutnotlost. the fact he denies his own issues is a lot of the problem; every time i try to talk to him about us he always swings it back to me. he knows he is part of the problem and acknowledges it only he doesn't seem to want to do anything about it. :(

You're not alone, your husband is cold, he denies his own issues and compounds yours in doing so. You need to reach out to others, don't let him tell you otherwise, do what's best for you.

appreciate the comment.

plan & discuss some romantic ideas to spark up the connection. growth is normal- sometimes proactively towards eachother should be persued

thanks mistook. i'll bear that in mind when i'm ready... xx

he sounds very practical and cold. you are worth a lot more and believe me someone else will make you feel like a princess. talk to me anytime you like. i have been there where you are and i came out the better for it. confidence is the key to escape. and friends.

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nothing. i thought he maybe thought i was having an online affair, god knows i'm capable of it, but he just said nothing, other than he didn't think i was having an affair. the next day he told me to be careful online because t can be dangerous. and i must stop talking to this person. that's it.

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what did your husband say/do when you told him you was confiding in someone online

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thanks misstook.

i know exactly how you feel . i was married for 21 years with someone who had no passion. i felt lonely and did everything alone. he was there but he wasn't. i should have left a long time before i did. i am the better for it. i hope you find a solution for you. there is a great life to be lived. i have found someone . it was on match .com and we are still together nearly 3 years later. i get support. at first i didn't even realise what it was or what it felt like. giving and receiving are skills. i have learned to receive and not do everything by myself. i wish you all the very best for your future.

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i'm glad you're making progress. thanks for your post.

Wow, I am going through the same thing, But I was your Husband. I am working on every thing that I thought was good and what I though was non-sence. it had a real bad effect on me and my Girls. I am past the point of things ever going back to the way they were, where my wife was my best friend. I am trying and working to maintain my my relationship. Being in the same place he is and the turn around that I am making Slowly, I feel that he is going to have to make a change. I am not so angry all the time and I my girls want to spend more time with me. They like Happy Daddy Back!!I like being happy Daddy Noodle