Sounds Simple EnoughI don't think it's too complicated to love someone without being given instructions. I mean, how difficult is it to show someone respect and consideration....to give affection freely...to treat them the way you want to be treated in return? To me, it's simple....love is about giving, about sharing, about compromise and partnership.
So if it's so easy for me, someone please help me understand why it is nearly impossible for my man? Why is it that he needs instructions on how to love me? Why do I have to tell him over and over again what I need from our relationship...from him? I get so tired of hearing, "I'm just a stupid guy...you have to TELL me what you want and need". I'm really fed up with the "stupid guy" excuse, because to me, that is ALL it is - an excuse, and a poor one at that.
Granted, communication is very important and sometimes we do need to verbalize these things. But when it comes to the simple basics of a romantic relationship, is it really necessary? Do men forgot so easily?
And he tells me that I'm the complicated one....I'm the one who's confusing and complex. What is so confusing and complex about wanting him to treat me the same way I treat him?
I just don't understand how it can be love, REAL love, if someone's "love" does not come from their own feelings and desires to fulfill you, but instead from being told what to do...given instructions on how to love.
LG76 36-40, F 6 Responses 3 May 1, 2012