When You Were a Child, What Did You Vow Never to Do As a Parent?

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71 Responses Jul 2, 2008


to never never smear their food in their face when child was old anough to make their own plate, and not eat all the food.

to never never smear their food in their face when child was old anough to make their own plate, and not eat all the food.

to never never smear their food in their face when child was old anough to make their own plate, and not eat all the food.

to never act before thinking when upset with your child for doing wrong. then never say anything about it. before or after.

<p>&nbsp;I vowed to never excuse my actions because I'm older.</p><br />
<p>I vowed never to hit my child.</p><br />
<p>I vowed to never play favourites.</p><br />
<p>I vowed to never ignore my child.</p><br />
<p>I vowed to never say "you don't understand"</p><br />
<p>I vowed to never leave for 3 hours and not tell my child where I'm going</p><br />
<p>I vowed to never call my child worthless, and ridiculous</p><br />
<p>I vowed to never compare my child with others</p><br />
<p>I vowed to never say "I don't even recognize you anymore"</p><br />
<p>I vowed to never insult my child.</p><br />
<p>I vowed to never be a parent because I'm afraid to be like my own.</p>

<p>Indifferent Towards My Children</p><br />
<p>Doesn't Give Enough Guidance to My Children</p>

<p>be a parent</p>

<p>I vowed that I would never be abusive to my children.&nbsp; I am the baby of five and my father worked in a Steel Factory and my mother was a stay at home mom.&nbsp; My father had a drinking problem and he was mean to us growing up.&nbsp; If we got bad grades on our report cards we would get our behinds spanked with either his belt or a willow tree switch, you pick I don't know which one is worse.&nbsp; One time I remember my middle brother had got into trouble he was hanging with the wrong crowd, smoking pot and shoplifting.&nbsp; One day the police had brought him home because they had busted him shoplifting and when my father got home he spanked him so hard, I was crying asking him to stop, by the time he got finished with him his back looked like Jesus Christ when he got crucified at the cross.&nbsp; One other when my brothers had brought there report card home they had bad grades and he took a fork to there feet until he drew blood and I told myself, self if you ever have kids you will find a different way to discipline them, I did not want them to feel the same type of pain that I was feeling.&nbsp; To me there is no reason in the world to be abusive in any relationship you may be in whether it be a father son relationship or boyfriend girlfriend there are many other ways to work problems out.</p>

<p>As a child I vowed never to forget what it's like to be a child. As both a parent and Nanny I stayed true to my vow and found that raising kids was more about adventure and discovery than unbendable rules and regulations</p>

<p>I have always vowed to never use my mom's favorite saying on my children... My mom used to tell me "Don't make me beat you in front of God and everyone"... I always thought that was the most f***ed up thing to tell a child... I mean I didn't care if she spanked me in front of other people... but why'd she have to bring God into it??? I wasn't THAT bad... ok I was... but damn woman...</p>


<p>Well, I always said I'd never make my kids wash and dry the dishes. Obviously, that was one chore I hated! However... all three of my kids have washed and dried many a dish, which I reasoned help to prepare them for adulthood!LOL</p>

<p>I promised never to make them wash the nasty dishes. But, now, I've already become a hypocrite, considering I yell at my <i>roommates </i>to wash the nasty dishes!</p>

<p>Say, "Because I said so"</p>

<p>I vowed never to yell at them for doing something stupid and instead try to understand why they did it.</p>

<p>I vowed never to use the "BECAUSE I TOLD YOU SO, THAT'S WHY" reason.</p>

<p>when i was a child i never once thought about being a parent</p>

<p>To make sure my child never felt unloved, and not to allow my own problems to make me blind to theirs.</p>

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<li><b>never to put myself above my children</b></li><br />
<li><b>&nbsp;do anything to provide for them </b></li><br />
<li><b>&nbsp;try my best to give them what I've never had.</b></li><br />

<p>To never be like my dad.</p>

<p>I vow to always let my child to know that I love her no matter what.</p><br />
<p>I vow to help my child reach her goals the best that I can </p><br />
<p>I&nbsp; vow not to let her grow up in a house with an abusive drunk father </p><br />
<p>I vow to protect her with my last breath </p><br />
<p>I vow to remember that no matter what age she is to remember that I was that age once and try to understand when she messes up </p><br />
<p>That is just a few that&nbsp; my parent's did not do for me </p>

<p>I vowed never to have children. I am terrified I will be like my parents and the thought of puting someone through what I went through growing up terrifies me. Additionally, I just learned that I am bipolar and it is believed to be at least partly hereditary... just something else I could not bare to inflict on any person.</p>

To Say: This Is Gonna Hurt Me More Than You. (in response to spanking). Ironically, as a parent... I've realized the statement IS true!

<p>Well, A few things come to mind, I told myself as a Parent I would not be an Alcoholic or an Abuser, My Dad was an Alcoholic and he would beat on my mom and they would throw things at each other and us kids found out at an early age you better hide somewhere or have something hit you. This was not a good situation to grow up in.</p><br />
<p>Another thing, I would never force my children to go to church after they reach teenage years, Don't get me wrong I believe in bringing children up in church but there comes a time when too much is too much and when i was growing up we were in church every time the doors were open, every Sunday morning, night and Wednesday night, then we had revivals all the time, some that lasted for months on end and we were forced to go to every service, and now as an adult i hate going to church and I know this was the reason why.&nbsp;</p>

So many things....<br />
* I wouldn't make my child suffer so that I can impress others<br />
* I would never put my work ahead of my child<br />
* I won't give my child so low self esteem that they looked for acceptance in all the wrong places<br />
* I won't beat my child because I'm stressed<br />
* I won't act as though no matter what they do they can never earn my love<br />
* I won't favour one kid over another<br />
* I will never tell them they are not wanted and that they've ruined the family<br />
* I wont terrify my child

<p>Never to allow religion to become a source of friction between us.</p>

<p>I vow NEVER to discourage my child from following his dreams.&nbsp;</p>

<p>I want to never tell my child this very sentence;</p><br />
<p>"you're too young to understand"</p>

<p>Force my child to wear something he/she doesn't like on their birthday!!</p>

<p>i vowed to never play favorites with my children. thats what my mother did with my sisters and i. she helped turn our whole family into a large group of back stabbing *******. we were constantly competeing for her greater affection. that is not something i want my kids to&nbsp;fight&nbsp;over. and most importantly i vowed to never air my own 'dirty laundry' to my kids. children have enough problems just trying to grow up, how dare i push my problems on them as well.</p>

I vowed that I would never be like my parents. Now, I pray that I can be the parents that they are.

<p>I vowd that my kids would always have something under the christmas tree, may not be much but it was something...An easter basket,,,a birthday cake,a valentine... and suprises...Their life would never be "normal"&nbsp; must have worked...when my pldest was in high schol a kid asked where her daddy lived...She said with me...Then where does your mother live...With me was the answer once more...THen the frind responded with "Boy the is odd" you mom and dad still live together...HAve stayed that way for almost 30 years...2 dauhters, 2 son-in-laws, and three grandkids...Wow how Odd.&nbsp; But great times over the days</p>

<p>I vowed I would never have kids.</p>

<p>I vowed never to whack my kids with high heel shoes....</p><br />
<p>and yes,it happened to me once.</p>

<p>To never say "Because I said so!". But I do... NOT as often as it seems my parents did but I catch myself saying it and thats when I explain why I said no. Unless I explained it 100 times already over and over again- I try to give a reason why.</p>

I vowed never to tell my kids "people in Hell want icewater" when they asked for something they really wanted like my parents always said to me...<br />
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broke that promise to myself, BTW... lol

<p>I vowed I would be affectionate to my children, because I want them to feel loved...My parents never showed affection with hugs and kisses..I always want to show my affection for them and my grandchild.</p>

<p>I vowed to listen to my children. I do not always agree with my kids and&nbsp;most of the time&nbsp;"no" isn't negotiable......but I do listen.....and I think it has made us all better people. Watching my&nbsp;children turn into adults is one of the best experiences of my life. Peace to you and yours.</p>

<p>I Vowed to Remove the Psychological and Physical Cruelty that my Dad raised Me With. Growing up with Something, that Dr.s didn't even understand, wasn't easy. Since My Dad didn't know either, things like placing my finger in the jaws of a pair of pliers just to learn math facts while he squeezed if i answered wrong, or Being the workhorse all the time, mainly the brakeman on a trencher when he was using the backhoe to dig, or just being grounded to my room when he felt like it, or, the day he lied to me about My Mother, triing to Convince Me that My Mother was Dead! in Short, when I turned 16, I found My Mother Very much ALIVE!!!!!, and Dad's Lies, rained down on Him. Like raindrops from the Sky, He couldn't keep His Stories Straight. The Last Bombshell He Dropped On Me was, The&nbsp;Day I turned 18, I wouldn't&nbsp;be able to Get back into the&nbsp;Home, Because, as He Put it, "You&nbsp;Don't have a Home, to Come&nbsp;Home--To." These are just a few of the Many&nbsp;Memories, I have striven to "Delete,"&nbsp;from My Childrens Lives, And from My Arsenal of Parental Tools, Because This Isn't at All, How a Father Should&nbsp;be, Nor Should He Take the Faults of His Life, And Put the&nbsp;Blame on His Kids. Like My Dad Did&nbsp;to Me. I Vowed To Be There, IF, WHEN, and as OFTEN as they Needed Me, that is for As Long As I&nbsp;Have a Breath of Life left Inside of Me.&nbsp;&nbsp; I'm Now, DAD.&nbsp; Times Four. tbe.&nbsp;</p>

<p>&nbsp;I thought I'd do my best to give my children a healthy family life. With all the ingredients, mom, dad, and some siblings perhaps.&nbsp;</p><br />

<p>I vowed never ever to put one of my kids out on the street ever. It's no fun being homeless as a kid.</p>

<p>get divorced</p>

<p>Say "Because I said so, that's why." &nbsp;And yes, I have done it in a moment of frustration.</p>

<p>Never hit or put down.No abuse period! I kept my vow.</p>

<p>When I was 16, I told my mother that I would never turn into the witch she was...Now I have to stay inside when it rains!&nbsp; (Karma will get you in the butt every time!)</p>

<p>Yell at them and tell them they're wrong, even when they really were. </p>

<p>I vowed that I would never abuse my children the way my adopted mother abused me, both verbally, emotionally and physically!</p>

<p>Force my childs sexual identity on them.</p>

That I would never make my children feel like their feelings didn't matter or make them feel unimportant in my life.

<p>i vowed never to get married and have kids. i got the kids part right should have listened to myself on the married part LOL</p>

<p>Stop my child from doing anything they wanted.</p><br />
<p>Lose control around them</p><br />
<p>Raise a hand to them</p><br />
<p>Ignore them</p><br />
<p>Stop loving....no matter what they do</p><br />
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<p>Never abandon them like my father abandoned me. Well "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree" It took me 30 years and I left without saying a word. It took my father 9 months and I haven't seen him since. Yeah I do plan on going back....it was momentary insanity!</p>

1) never to shove religion or my personal beliefs down my kids throat.<br />
2) never to favor one kid over another.

<p>I vowed never to become a parent. It was quit apparent at a young age that it was not the right choice for me. However, I also made it a point o make sure my parents knew how much I loved and valued them - still do. </p>

I vowed to never serve them lima beans or spinach.

<p>To never be one!</p>

<p>When my mom died, my dad pretty much left us alone to fend for ourselves. He's still around but he's really not a father.</p><br />
<p>I don't plan on having kids but I'm very close to my niece and nephew and love them like they are mine so I vowed to never abandoned them in any circumstance such as how painful situations get and want to be alone.</p>

<p>Eat if they didn't want to.</p>

<p>I vowed never to say that which older people are always saying about young people: &laquo;These kids today...!&raquo;, usually followed by something very demeaning.</p><br />
<p>I could't keep it, though. These kids today really annoy me.</p><br />

<p>Make them eat ham and beans...</p>

<p>I vowed never to one day hinder my child's creativity and personal style. </p><br />

<p>I vowed to let my kid enjoy and experience music that was able to discover &nbsp;Specially ELVIS PRESLEY&nbsp; & FRANK ZAPPA To his or hers&nbsp;litlle hearts content... Unfortunately I only have Nephews And&nbsp;neices&nbsp;but I share every type of music that I with them and they seem to like most of it . What kind of kid would you be if you did not know elvis the beatles Dion , del shannon FRANK ZAPPA AND THE MOTHERS OF INVENTION along with the classical music .</p>

<p>I promised myself that I'd never hit&nbsp;my children (if I have any) and never to say "I wish you were never born".</p>

Not quite perfectly on topic, but I wpuldn't live vicariously through them.

<p>I vowed to never be as overprotective as they are.</p>

<p>My mum stopped me hanging around a friend. I vowed I would never do that.</p><br />
<p>That "friend" ended up in jail and was a bad egg. Mum was right, is that normal?</p>

<p>to never forget how it feels to be young and in need of guidance and boundaries.....even if you don't "think" you need them.</p>

<p>when i was a child, everything my parents told me NOT to do, was what i told myself i would let my child do when i had one! lol&nbsp; yeah...i have a daughter now...that hasn't worked out so well! :)</p>

<p>I would never beat my kid like I was beaten...</p>

<p>Never ever tell my children that"there are starving children in China who would love to eat this"!!!!!</p>