I Dont Know How

I am not sure what I can do to be a better mother. I try so hard, but I feel like a failure. My oldest son is suffering from depression and I don't know how to help him. My second son is very unable to show his feelings. My youngest son doesn't listen to a word that anyone says. I don't know how to make it all better. They are the way that they are because I have failed them somewhere. I just can't figure out where or what to do about it. I don't want my babies suffering, but how do I fix something that I can't make sense of?
silvertears silvertears
31-35, F
2 Responses Aug 9, 2007

We are not perfect as parents. Teenage years are hard. Hopefully it will just be a phase they are going thru and one day you will be able to look back and realize you worried yourself over nothing. Good luck!

I think your first step is to stop blaming yourself. We do our best as parents, and it is never good enough. It never will be; but it's the best we can do. there are other influences which we can't always protect our children from. You can't assume your kids are the way they are all because of you. <br />
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I think your second step should be to list the things you like about your kids. You get to take some credit for the good stuff, too.