I Want to Be a Mom
Two Reactions When People Hear That I Am Waiting For Children.
By:
abm101709
Written on December 10th, 2011
When I get asked why I don't yet have children with my husband I have a simple answer: "I am waiting until I am finished with school, and have a stable career."
I typically get two reactions to this answer.
The First:
"Well that's smart of you."
Yes, I know, that's why I am doing it. I want kids... badly. At the same time, I don't have a stable career, benefits, insurance, or the room in our budget to make it happen. It seems reasonable to wait until I do have those things, right? However, I do get another reaction.
The Second:
"Well, you know you'll never be ready for kids, so you should just accept it when it happens."
Are you serious? I am fully aware that I will never be truly "ready" for children. It's not an experience you can be completely prepared for. That doesn't give my husband and I license to stop our birth control methods and assume the attitude, "Come what may." I won't be completely prepared for the rigors of new parenthood, but it certainly seems reasonable enough to me to wait until I have a career I can count on, health insurance, life insurance, and money to pay for the things a child needs.
Waiting is hard. It's really hard. It genuinely hurts sometimes, but I cannot justify getting pregnant because "accidents happen."
I typically get two reactions to this answer.
The First:
"Well that's smart of you."
Yes, I know, that's why I am doing it. I want kids... badly. At the same time, I don't have a stable career, benefits, insurance, or the room in our budget to make it happen. It seems reasonable to wait until I do have those things, right? However, I do get another reaction.
The Second:
"Well, you know you'll never be ready for kids, so you should just accept it when it happens."
Are you serious? I am fully aware that I will never be truly "ready" for children. It's not an experience you can be completely prepared for. That doesn't give my husband and I license to stop our birth control methods and assume the attitude, "Come what may." I won't be completely prepared for the rigors of new parenthood, but it certainly seems reasonable enough to me to wait until I have a career I can count on, health insurance, life insurance, and money to pay for the things a child needs.
Waiting is hard. It's really hard. It genuinely hurts sometimes, but I cannot justify getting pregnant because "accidents happen."
By:
abm101709
Age:
22-25
,
Female
