Happy For You But When Is It My Turn?

My husband & I have been trying to become parents for the last 3 years.  We've lost three babies, have sought the help of an RE...still...I've no child to love.  It seems that the last three years have been spent planning baby showers for EVERYONE around me including all of my best friends, my younger/unmarried cousin with a brain tumor, my younger sister in law who didn't want to be pregnant but now seems to take joy in reminding me that she is, down to teen celebrities whose photos are splattered all over my television/magazines/etc.  Don't get me wrong...I really am happy for these people.  I just want so much to know what its like to be pregnant and give birth and to see that little person become who he/she is intended to be.  Anyone feel that way?

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4 Responses Feb 24, 2009

I understand how all of you feel. I am 21 and my fiance is 22. He claims he wants a baby just as bad as i do, but as soon as i start ovulating, hes all of the sudden too tired, too sore, or not in the mood. Than after id ovulate hed be wanting to have sex every night. Im so frustrated and hurt and upset. All my friends are pregnant and are gushing and it only makes me hurt more. No one seems to understand what im going through. When i try to explain they all just say focus on your schooling and your job. I just wish someone understood. I'm tired of being upset over something i dont have control over.

i know what your going though me and my husband have been trying for three years and still no baby.the other day i thought i was pregnant because i was late and ive never been late ,but i got my period three days later it very stressful .but im not going to give up i got pregrgant once an lost it at five weeks and havent gotnt pregnant again,it really hurts sometime but i know something good gonna happen.

It's not jealousy it's disappointment. Not like you're disappointed in them, you're just sad for you. I know because every time I miss a period and I'm not pregnant I cry. I burst out crying at babies r us Sunday. I was supposed to be picking out a baby shower gift for my 17 year old cousin, but all I could do was cry. I had to leave empty handed.

I totally get you... And I feel the same way. It's like every way you look someone is pregnant.... and It's not jealousy, it's just a different feeling..... I really don't know how to explain it. My husband and I have been trying for about two years, but I havent been taking any contraceptives since 2003. We have been married for 5 years and nothing. the first couple of years we werent ready, but then we started trying and nothing. It gets very frustrating.<br />
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Every month when I get my period I get depressed.... I don't know what else to do. I went to the doctor and we are going to have a bunch of test done, but I'm a little afraid of the results.<br />
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My brother had twins 11 months ago, and they are expecting AGAIN. for some reason it bothers me.... not in a bad way, but why can they have all these children and Im having so much trouble trying to have my own?.