I Still Want To Be A Teen MomI am a senior, I'm 17 years old, I have a boyfriend who is 19 and we've been together for 2 years. I want a baby.
Why- I want a baby so bad, I have for a little over a year, and it's reached its peak. I've dreamed the past three nights of having a baby and the feeling that came over me was just amazing. I have never wanted something so much that it makes me sad that I don't have it and the thought that I have to wait 3+ years. I'd love spending endless time with my baby that I've created, that looks like me and my boyfriend; something so innocent and so pure, loving you unconditionally forever. A little baby looking to you for comfort, and when it's sad or tired it wants you. My mom even pointed out how responsible I'd be if i had a baby. My step mom said the same thing when my brother was younger and I'd take care of him.
Working/School - I am obviously going to college, and my boyfriend is in his second year of college. He also has a steady job. I want a job and save up money for my baby. I'm getting my license in a week and i have a free truck available to me, and my boyfriend has a car. I will save up money for the baby for the main expenses (crib, changing table, pack n play, car seat, stroller, etc.) I will probably either quit my job and just focus on school and the baby while my boyfriend will either finishes school or is finished with school and have a better job. If not I will keep low hours at my job and have a nest egg just in case. I will not put the burden of my parents paying for my decision, and welfare is the last resort.
“Daycare” - My child will NOT go to daycare. My baby will be with grandma, grandpa, aunts, uncles, cousins. For the 3-4 hours I'll be in school, if that. They have online classes that my friend has interested me in and I would do those whether or not I have a child. As for a job, I'll obviously have low hours and that's the only time I'll be out of the house. I don’t party or go out, ever.
Giving up my Youth Years - I do not have the typical teenage life, going out to parties, drinking, hanging out with a bunch of people, i didn't even have a sweet sixteen party. The only thing I do is I go over my neighbor’s house with my boyfriend because our friends live together (they’re a couple) and we get along really well. As a matter of fact, she loves babies and wants one of her own too. They are both 20 turning 21. So I wouldn’t be “throwing my life away” like a lot of people say. I would want to bring a baby into my life as I start my own. I want a baby with me to love and to bond with. Most young moms are closer to their child because they are so young and have the energy their kid has to keep up with them and we will like a lot of the same things.
The Father- I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We met in school, I was a sophomore and he was a senior. I was 15 and he was 17. Now I’m a senior, and 17; He’s a sophomore in college and 19. He does not want a baby right now in our lives because he knows we cannot financially support a baby right now, he wants me to wait until I am 21. The chances of us splitting are very, very slim. We hang out EVERY day, do EVERYTHING together. My dad likes him (my dad lives in a different state and I only see him every other weekend and my boyfriend has come to see him with me about 6 times, vacations included). My mom loves him (she sees him all the time). He’s comfortable with my family and I’m comfortable with his, his mom treats me better than him half the time. We’ve gone through him graduating high school, him in college, prom, exes, him getting a car, him crashing a car, him having no money, his mom charging him rent, him having no car, he went through a period where he was miserable and I became miserable , but we’ve overcome that. Right now we’re all lovey still and I want to be with him forever. I’ve cried at times I thought I was going to lose him, he’s cried at times that he thought he was going to lose me. When we do fight over something serious, we instantly forgive each other and just hug or snuggle. We’ve never said anything hateful or mean to each other. He gave me his virginity and I gave him mine. We’ve had pregnancy scares but never anything too serious. I told him I would keep the baby and he told me he would stand by my side.
Money- He has a steady job and is being offered an even better job. I just got offered a free truck that a family friend owns and he knows the ins and outs of this truck and if it ever breaks down, he has my back. I am getting a job once I get my license(in a week) and I will save every penny. I never go shopping, I never go out to eat (I honestly can’t remember the last time I’ve done either). I’ll have to help pay for car insurance but I’m a girl, I have honors at school, and I just finished driving school so it will be very cheap; I am also under my parents insurance. As for the baby, I and my boyfriend will have jobs and I will make sure I have 2 nest eggs saved up for emergencies. I will NOT put the burden on my mom by paying for my child. Welfare is also the last option for me.
Taking care of my Baby- Yes, I see and understand all the ‘cons’ that come with a baby. I might have to be waking up every two hours, sometimes getting no sleep at all, endlessly changing diapers, listening to a crying baby. I see all that on 16 and pregnant, I see it in person (my friend has a baby and she lived with me for a few months). I understand and I see that. But the reward is so worth it. Yes you wake up and you’re so tired and you have to feed and she won’t go back to sleep, but at the end of the day when it’s you and your baby, your creation; it’s just so worth it, to make him giggle, see her smile, watch him sleep, her little farts. I just want it so bad. I’ve changed diapers, I’ve put clothes on babies, I’ve gotten them to stop crying, I’m capable and I’m not like the moms on TV that call their mother when they poop all over themselves. I’m ready, also while I’m young and have the most energy at this age, it makes sense.
Bad Attention- I realize having a baby belly in high school will look bad and I’ll get called a ***** maybe and they might pick on me for it, but honestly I won’t care. I would even like the attention of my friends and people touching my belly and feeling my baby kick! Not only being 17 or 18 and pregnant, but I look young for my age, I can pass for 15! I’m sure I’ll get nasty looks in the grocery store or something, but I’ve never cared what people have thought about me and it won’t change now. Me walking around with a baby too, going to the pediatrician’s office at 18/19 isn’t going to look good but I still won’t care. I will be a good mom, the best mom I can be and that’s all that matters. Just because I’m 17 doesn’t mean I will not be a good mom. The statistics are stacked against me but they don’t influence me. Everyone is good at something, and this is my something.