I'm a red head and a Aries so I have a dominate personality. I'm not pushy and bitchy, just a take charge and get things done kind of girl. My husband is more laid back but not what I would call submissive. I love it when he puts me face down on the bed and takes me from behind. He will hold me down and tell me I am his and that he owns me. He controls the pace and I have the most intense ******* when he does this. I don't think I would be comfortable letting another man do this but I may try it sometime.