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Sick of Being Forced to Dominate.

I'm tired of being the man.

I want to be the fairer sex, for once, I want to keep from betraying my biology. I want to be the kissed instead of the kisser, I want to be the held instead of the holder, the embraced instead of the embracer.

I'm tired of being strong, I want to be weak. I want to be taken over.
slowrewind slowrewind 21-25, F 12 Responses May 11, 2007

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I know so well what you mean.

it's my first time to hear or read about this kind of feeling in men. It's wonderful to know that men at times like to be the underdog in bed. I will suggest that you should run to me.

I understand and wanted to let you know that you are not alone.
I have worked with many women in the same situations and feelings.

They have also found that for just a few minutes in getting a good spanking can help you feel what you may be looking for before heading back into reality. These breaks give them a break which helps them to cope and head on.

Slowrewind - is you lover not making love to you?

First thing is to find out what you really desire. You seem to have done that. Now, you should go through a period of discussions with your partner. Although it appears difficult to do that without going against what you feel comfortable with, see if you can find a modus vivendi that allows both of you to get a fair share of satisfaction. If not, you will either have to redefine your relationship, maybe live together as friends and letting in others for sex if you are open to that, or split. You may be able to live in self-denial as long as you can reasonably hope for a change, but ultimately it will do no good to you and your partner if you keep yourselves from living what you feel you are.

I am so with you on that! Feminism and "strong" women in my opinion aren't sexy at all. Its so frustrating because since women's lib men have become "metro" and sensitive .....UG how annoying is that! I want to be taken care of and loved for the sex kitten I am.

Dominance and submission are usually natural rolls people fall into. It can be extremely hard for one person to break those natural instincts. Some people can go from one to the other depending on the situation.



Maybe try laying out a plan for him to follow. Sure even though he is following your plan it would still be you calling the shots. But possibly over a little time he will adjust to his role and start acting more dominant.



Good luck to you.

This is great advice Zyzamora but not always the answer. My husband is naturally submissive and uninterested in sex. I have tried to get him to understand that I want him to be the aggressor, to take control and use me in the bedroom but with really no luck. So, I am stuck with me being the dominant one or going without.

I am a 25 year old female, and I know EXACTLY how you feel. I am so very sorry to hear someone else suffer what I had to suffer. I told him straight off "if you want me, then you better act like it...or else" To be honest, the relationship didn't work out. He told me that he doesn't want to be with me anymore because in his eyes "i'm no longer attractive". I woman needs to be held and comforted. She needs to feel protected and thought of. These aspects are very important in a relationship. Give and Take. Tell your man what you want and how you want it. A closed mouth doesn't get fed. It sucks, but it's true.

HAVE YOU TALKED WITH YOUR MAN ABOUT BEING JUST THAT?

You could be on your way to being cuckold. You wife, gaining the strength and will to dominate you through the virility of a naturally dominate lover, fufills your desire.

so what's holding you back? Find a man or woman to dominate you. It's worth it. .... I was the "man" w/ my ex. it was horrible. it was actually worse than horrible. I betrayed who I was to stay with him. ..... Don't do that. It's NOT worth it.