I haven't always hated my body, but having a baby and gaining 60 pounds when you were already trying to lose 20, has changed that.  I might have had tiny issues with my body before that, but not to the point where I hated how I looked.  I have lost the 60 pounds I gained during pregnancy, but I am still looking to lose 15 more.  My body has definitely changed over the past 2 years.  I know my stomach will never be flat unless I get a tummy tuck, the stretching of the skin is not pretty.  I have been with my husband for almost 7 years and I hate getting naked in front of him.  When we have sex I keep a shirt on or have all the lights off.  He says it doesn't matter to him, that I look good, but it is making me uncomfortable.

I have started working out again, and trying to eat right, I know I will do it eventually.  Hopefully someday I will be happy with myself.

J21883 J21883
26-30, F
5 Responses Mar 10, 2009

I have no problem losing the weight... I actually use a tea that does the same thing but is only 6 dollars for a 30 day supply, so I am good with that. I also go to the gym religiously and watch what I eat. But losing the baby weight was easy, its the excess skin I am not too happy with. So if you know any way to get rid of that without going under the knife please let me know lol

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Thank you both. I am actually starting to feel a little bit better about my body now. I have done some major soul searching over the past few months.

I really do not know how to relate to you. I am a 57 year old man. To me, a lady who is sagging, stetch marks, tummy buldge is the hottest looking body in the world. I so desire that. A woman whose body is like that to me is so desireable. <br />
I know a lot of men want a slim trim body.......but for me, it is the opposite.<br />
The main thing is for you to be happy with yourself......and I hope you can attain that, if that is what makes you happy.<br />
but please do realize, that some men think that body is hot....Older, overweight, sagging women are so lovely to me. But that is just me.<br />
I hope this makes you feel a little better.....but my hope is you will be happy.......

I totally feel you, I had my son three years ago and I have actually dropped below my pre-pregnancy weight and I now weigh 130lbs. Which sounds great until you see my once D-cups as saggy 32c's and my stomach looks like the skin of a third degree burn victim. I can't afford a tummy tuck so I'm stuck being a size 5-6 when I should be a 3-4 due to "extra baggage" and never being comfortable naked or otherwise all my tops are loose fitting and my jeans are never too tight so I don't have the dreaded "muffin-top". But I am naked when i make love to my husband and have had to force myself to get used to his hands on my naked stomach and breasts. That's really the first step to try and separate yourself from feeling so bad about it, if he loves you let him love your body too, even though I know how hard that really can be, good luck!