What I've LearnedOne of the biggest lessons of my life is that my happiness is my responsibility. I know at the outset that this seems rather elementary, but having been the victim of abuse, it seems at times like the abusers are the ones solely responsible for what I sometimes go through. Still that is in the past, and assigning blame will not remove the pain or fear or insecurities.
Happiness I have concluded is not truly ba
Poker like happiness is a contact sport. What? That's right! Poker is a game of mind to mind, intention to intention, person to person contact! So is happiness. Of course I can be happy when by myself, but I must share sometimes. And that sharing can and indeed does amplify whether or not mine is a happy life.
What about your fears and insecurities you ask? A very good question! Remember we said poker was less about the cards you are dealt and more about how you play them. Same holds true with the happiness of my life. Like the song said, "every gambler knows the secret to surviving, is knowing what to throw away and knowing what to keep. Every hands a winner, and every hands a loser."
Happiness can be found in virtually every set of circumstances, I believe. Why I sometimes can't find it, is a matter of perspective. When searching for anything it is imperative that one have the perspective to be able to recognize that which is sought. So often in the past I launched into a search for happiness without the slightest clue of how to identify it. Can you imagine looking at a forest with the hope of finding a particular type of tree and not knowing anything at all about trees? Even knowing something about trees you have to move into the forest to find the type of tree you seek. So it is with life, if I hope to have a happy life it is imperative that I learn to identify true happiness, and then be a part of life while I search. Having chosen to live a happy life, grateful for my opportunities and willing to look at every hand I am dealt with new eyes, knowing that happiness is probably nearby hunting me.